r/BlackTransmen

I'm going to have to move to Florida in less than a year with my family, no choices on moving away with them. As a black trans guy I'm worried about racism, Transphobia and being in the wrong places at the wrong time. Especially now that More political bull crap is happening.

Is there anything or any experiences that should make me feel okay about moving to Florida? Or something I should know about or be aware of? Please help.

Anyone here had phalloplasty ? What was your experience regarding recovery and satisfaction with your results?

hello! i’m a trans man, have been for about 6 years (i’m 18), and i can say with confidence that this is the most dysphoric summer i’ve ever had. i’m back at home from my first year of college. i’ve made so many friends with other trans guys which has obviously been unbelievably great, but now i have to be home with my homophobic/transphobic parents for the next 3 months. thankfully, i’ve been out to my hometown friends all this time + they love me for who i am, but it’s been hitting me hard lately that because of my parents/fear of actually coming out to them, i won’t be able to medically transition for a while. i wish i had the balls (lol) to just come out to my parents, deal with the consequences, then start medically transitioning, but i REALLY don’t want to risk them not financially supporting me college-wise, shelter-wise, etc. i know how pretentious that sounds, but it really is my biggest fear. part of me wishes that they would just ask me straight up, “are you trans,” because then it would take soooo much weight off my back. also kinda unrelated, but all my hometown friends are cis girls/femme presenting, and with talks about going to the beach together and going swimming this summer, i’ve just been silently panicking bc i have ZEROOO idea on what to wear (maybe tape and swim trunks/swim shirt??). but anyway yeah, i’ve just been feeling super dysphoric and i can’t wait for it to go away

Hello, I’ve never posted before but I needed somewhere to vent and I have difficulty expressing my true feelings to others in real life. I am so fucking mad and uncomfortable and scared. I recently got back from a hangout with an old childhood friend of mine that’s back in town. She’s white; I grew up In a predominately white and Latino area where their were %3 of the population was black. A few months prior to our hangout I went to visit her up at her college and it didn’t go well. It was like after the first day she didn’t want me there anymore. I decided not to bring it up. I feel like a lot of my issues come from the fact that I have a hard time communicating and expressing when things bother me or how I feel in general. I’m not sure if the atmosphere of that trip was something my anxious mind had come up with or If there is a basis of truth to it. Anyway, as we were hanging out she said something that made my stomach sink. She’s one of those what people that tries to distance herself from other white people in a “I’m one of the good ones” type of way. Sometimes it feels like overcompensation but it’s whatever, I understand she doesn’t have malicious intent. When we were talking she recounted how one of her friends from school (another black person) calls her (she demonstrated it to me) by calling her a “Knitter”. I could not hide the way my face looked when she said it and she immediately said “like the word knit (hence the way I spelled it) and quickly apologized. I said it was all good and tried my best to go back to acting as normal as possible but in my mind I was just like “fucking why?!” Why did she have to say it outloud, she knows exactly what that sounds like. This situation feels like for me a tipping point of a bunch of other shit underneath it. I am a chronic people pleaser. In terms of fight or flight I fawn and make myself as agreeable as possible. I have gotten so much better than I give myself credit for , I now am able to tell people if they have upset or if I feel uncomfortable after I have taken a day or so to process it myself, but I loathe confrontation. When I get angry I cry and I can’t shit talk or roast others at all. It’s something I’m deeply ashamed of and hate myself for. I know I’ve gotten better but it is still so hard for me to express anger and communicate how I feel. At my job I feel like in others eyes I am the “energetic funny guy that can take a joke” it’s fine if my friends do it but people who don’t even like roast me and I can’t dish it back because I don’t know how. Being a black person feels like everywhere you are the world wants to beat the shit out of you. The constant micro aggressions even from friends, and not even talking about how anti black and racist the internet is. I am so tired of it all. I know I need to get stronger but I’m exhausted , I don’t want to become a bitter and mean person, I want to love and respect myself and be able to defend myself against other peoples words but it’s so scary. I have no other black friends and I know I need them. Come June I will be moving to Atlanta so I am determined to make them, though I’m still nervous because it’s the south. I have so much work to do but I’m just so ashamed and angry and I really don’t want to go to work tommorow.

hey yall hope everyone’s doing as well as possible.

i’m trying to figure out if what im experiencing is regular degular or i need to genuinely talk to my doc. the past few months, whenever i do my t shot (i use my stomach), the injection area and around it will be overly itchy for the rest of the week basically until the next shot.

am i tripping? is this normal? can i lessen it? do i actually need to see my doc? can you feel it mr. krabs? no but seriously, please help lol. stay safe!

So my shot frequency went from once a week to every 3 days ( per request), so im on amazon looking for needles. Ive seen some guys say a 27g is easier. ( It's T cyponate if that matters)

How do you guys go about approaching and talking to women in real life ?? And if you use dating apps are you publicly stating you are trans on your profile ? Are there any apps that work better for you..?

I don't really want super thick locs. I want them more on the side but I don't want them to be too thin to the point it'll be perceived as automatically feminine.