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Nashville lacks a train station, so I'm also curious about the Milwaukee-Nashville trip via Greyhound since it's less time and more affordable + no transfers. (I'm looking into a train to Memphis + bus to Nashville, too.)

I used to travel by Megabus, longest trip maybe 6 hours overnight. Have done long road trips so all the sitting is not a problem assuming there are at least a few stops where I could stretch my legs. I know Greyhound can be sketch, especially for overnight trips. Just wondering about people's general experience with this specific route.

This is an open conversation. I'd like to get more perspectives from men (trans or cis) who are openly gay/queer, naturally masculine in energy and/or aesthetic, and not exclusively masc4masc. Just curious.

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(1) Do you ever worry about being perceived as a hetero couple when dating someone androgynous or fem?

(2) What aspects of femininity do you connect to?

(3) Do you struggle finding queer community because you "don't look gay"?

(4) What does your friend circle look like? What kind of spaces do you feel most comfortable socializing in?

I'm hoping to have some conversation about what it's like to be a Black transmasc butchqueen or femme dating a Black gay cis man. The butchqueen/femme part is important because pretty much every gay trans man I know is very masculine, and that changes some of the relational dynamics and optics of things.

As a starting point: I'm newly talking to a guy and experiencing some moments where I think dysphoria, which I rarely experience, comes up. Moments like when he hugs or holds me around the waist, or the recognition that he presents more masc and I worry that that will cause us to be perceived as a straight couple (my androgyny + style gets me misgendered regularly).

I'm also curious about what your support circles look like. So, so, sooooo many trans people and sapphic folks hate men. And I get it. But I love Black men and masc folks. Always have, always will, there's nothing anyone can do to make me hate them/us. So it's become increasingly hard to even have anyone to talk to about my experience.

Sex is another topic I'd like to explore, especially with people who aren't strict bottoms.

Open to delving into other things that come up for people at this intersection of identities and experiences. The goal here is just to find some people like me to talk to about these things.

I'm hoping to have some conversation about what it's like to be a Black transmasc butchqueen or femme dating a Black gay cis man. The butchqueen/femme part is important because pretty much every gay trans man I know is very masculine, and that changes some of the relational dynamics and optics of things.

As a starting point: I'm newly talking to a guy and experiencing some moments where I think dysphoria, which I rarely experience, comes up. Moments like when he hugs or holds me around the waist, or the recognition that he presents more masc and I worry that that will cause us to be perceived as a straight couple (my androgyny + style gets me misgendered regularly).

I'm also curious about what your support circles look like. So, so, sooooo many trans people and sapphic folks hate men. And I get it. But I love Black men and masc folks. Always have, always will, there's nothing anyone can do to make me hate them/us. So it's become increasingly hard to even have anyone to talk to about my experience.

Sex is another topic I'd like to explore, especially with people who aren't strict bottoms.

Open to delving into other things that come up for people at this intersection of identities and experiences. The goal here is just to find some people like me to talk to about these things.