r/gaytransguys

Alright, so I(32) went to a gay bathhouse last night for the first time and attended their ftm night. I was really surprised because I was imagining more of like a Roman style bathhouse with like a pool area but that was NOT what I experienced and I'm not upset with that lol anyway I had a lot of fun and got plenty of action but the best part of the night was when I walked over to check out the glory hole area. There just so happened to be another trans guy standing at one of the holes waiting to get sucked. For context, before this I've never been with another trans guy after they've started T. I'm a vers service top so sucking dick is probably my all-time favorite sex and so I jumped on this opportunity and went over to him........ holy shit dude..... once I started licking and sucking his cock he got so hard and that just made me even more excited and I could feel him twitching in my mouth and shaking as he got closer. When he finally came he tasted so fucking good and his cock pulsed on my lips as he grunted and moaned through his orgasm and I.....I was so wet it was running down my thighs and my dick was buzzing. That was amazing and I am so happy to say that sucking tdick is my new favorite sex act. Period.

Hooked up with a guy for the first time. And honestly, I don’t know. He only touched my when I put his hands on me, ended up giving him head and he came into my mouth which was fine I guess. It was good in a way that it’s someone who’s leaving tomorrow, several hours away, and I got to interact with a cis penis and giving head. He just didn’t try to touch me much at all. Kissing sure, he initiated so I thought that meant he was into me but like. Is this normal? Is expecting them to want to touch me not a usual starting point? I’ve only had lesbian sex pre transition, and even there when it’s not someone who really likes to do a whole lot they still want to touch my body.

Tagging with 18+ just in case, since this could cover a sexual spectrum of things as well...

I'm curious what sort of affirmations you like to hear from your partner whether that be in the bedroom or outside of it.

I'm also open to hearing what sort of affirmations you tell yourself.

After a couple rather denigrating brief relationships, I'm trying hard to be confident in this new one that has thus far felt relatively healthy. It is odd for me to feel this worry in my manhood and share it in a way that doesn't just ooze insecurity. But I am trying not to over-ask for affirmations or reassurances and trying to build up my own internal dialogue instead. So, hearing the things that float in the minds of others would be a boon to as much.

Thank you sincerely.

I'm aromantic, and I've had the thought before that if I were alloromantic, I would probably have a typical relationship with sex, and it's only because I'm not that my own holdups around sex and physical intimacy become apparent, bc if I were in a romantic relationship I would probably be comfortable escalating physicality at a societally typical pace and it would not be abnormal.

However, I'm not, and so I'm in my mid-20s and have never had sex, which I know isn't that uncommon, and I don't feel badly about, but also, maybe I'd like to, or whatever.

Anyways, I have a fluctuating opinion of hookups, where sometimes they stress me out, or sometimes they seem fine in theory, but then I'm talking to someone and can't follow through now that it's a real person and not an idea, or sometimes they seem fun, but maybe I'm just horny? Which I guess isn't a bad thing.

Ideally, I could have an fwb situation with someone I actually know, but I am now 3/3 on the people who I have physically intimate relationships being acespec and now living on a different continent from me, and for obvious reasons it's frankly not that easy for me to find people who are interested in some day maybe potentially having sex, but let's just be friends and get to know each other first.

So... What to do if you're easily scared but it's probably lack of experience making you scared in the first place?