u/ZandraDragon

I wasn’t sure what flair to pick. I was wondering if any discord servers were started or already exist for gay trans men? I am currently trying to get more involved with the community and would like to make some friend. I know there was a post about looking for one a while ago and I wasn’t sure if there was an update? If there isn’t one might be interested in making one myself if there is enough interest? I also just got back to work so it might be awhile before I do.

While I have managed to make friends in the local community I’ve been still wanting to branch out more and meet people outside of that. For years most of my friends were online and while that is a welcome change to have real life friends. I still find myself feeling lonely and wishing I knew more people in my specific community or even in the gay community. I just find that with everything going on community is so important right now. I would also be open to queer or gay men’s discord servers as long as they are trans friendly. I tend to do better with smaller servers vs larger ones but would be open to checking out larger servers. Thanks for taking the time to read this!

Some days all I think about is killing myself. When I’m over stimulated, when things don’t work out, when I feel trapped and hopeless. Been thinking about it more lately. I’m in therapy and have a psychiatrist but nothing works. I’m even on t and even if I’m starting to feel more like myself I still can’t stand my body. Been struggling to lose weight and have been gaining muscle instead. The thoughts are still there and some days I wish I would just act on them. My life feels so pointless and I hate myself so much. Nothing in my life is working out and I just don’t want to be here anymore. I can’t even openly be myself without fear of everything falling apart because I’m a Subistute teacher in Florida . I feel so lonely. Even if I checked myself in to somewhere I wouldn’t be able to afford it and it would just be in more debt. I don’t know how much longer I can keep doing this. Nothing works so maybe I’m just terminal and destined to kill myself and too cowardly to do it. I am just so tired of living in a world that hates me and makes me feel like a freak. That I’m trapped in a body I can barely stand. That I will never find someone who loves me for me because I keep attracting the wrong people. That I will never have a boyfriend and no one will ever want to be with me for me. I keep trying to make connections and it never works so maybe I’m destined to just be alone. I don’t think it will ever get better and I’m tired of trying. I’m not sure why I haven’t killed myself. Maybe I’m just a coward.

Hi,

So I am sure this sub gets post like this a lot. In my case I figured out I was a trans man later when I was 29. Started t at 30 and been on it over 3 months. Before this I thought I was non-binary and ace/aro. Now I think I may just be a very gay man and might still be on the asexual spectrum. I am giving myself time to figure things out because going from nope on gender and relationships to being more binary than I thought and wanting to be in a relationship has been whip lash. I am in therapy to work on myself. I also don't feel comfortable dating until I work on myself more and get in better overall situation. After going to pride I had horrible dysphoria of wondering if I will fit in with queer men. Nothing really happened to trigger it so I honestly think its sadness at my first pride being a trans man is over and well dysphoria brain worms. Part of the problem I think is figuring out myself so late. I was wondering if anyone had any books or advice for dealing with these feeling and learning the culture better. I am also looking for discord groups to meet like minded people. Not really for dating. Just realized I don't have a lot of trans masc and trans man friends and would like to just feel less alone and to make some more friends. I was also wondering if anyone had any advice for dealing with these feelings? I know once I transition I have been told things will get better but right now things while they feel better than yesterday still feel heavy and overwhelming so any advice would be appreciated .

thanks for taking the time to read this!