My partner is trans and is always assuming that other people are trans based on gender stereotypes and it makes me uncomfortable
I just want some insight from other trans people about this
I’m 29F & cis and my partner is 29M and is a transgender man. We’ve been dating for about 7 months
Whenever a male celebrity that one of us is a fan of does something feminine (like wears a dress/skirt or has long hair or something) he’ll make comments like “they’re definitely a trans woman”
Or even just friends of ours; he starts to theorize that somebody is transgender if they present differently than the stereotype for their gender
It makes me extremely uncomfortable because, ironically, it reminds me of my republican family (who i am estranged from). I feel like he’s enforcing such strict gender roles onto everybody and it just pisses me off. It’s so backwards. Like imo a dude can wear a skirt and still be a dude
Another reason why it makes me uncomfortable is because I don’t always conform to stereotypical femininity and Ive been feeling self-conscious about that for the first time in my entire life. Like I wonder if he doesn’t fully believe that I’m a girl just because I have a masculine side.
I just wanna hear some insight before I talk to him about how I feel about it. I think that he means well and maybe just wants to find people to relate to.
I’m really afraid that this might be a relationship deal-breaker for me though because I really get angry at people who are obsessed with gender roles because of my republican family trauma / i just think that it’s dumb and annoying
Everything else is perfect though so maybe it’s not a deal breaker. I feel like I have to tell him how I feel but maybe I don’t have to change his mind about it. I think I could agree to disagree with him because I like him so much.
I guess I’m just posting this here because I’m nervous about bringing it up to him and I wanna hear what other trans people think