u/VENIS-

Hi everyone,

I really need some advice because I feel like I’m losing control over how people treat me.

A couple of days ago, two people who I used to consider my friends humiliated me in front of others. This happened in front of my collage classmates, which made it even worse. They kept messing with me, unbuttoning my shirt, pushing me, and running away while laughing. When I got upset, they said it was “just a joke.” I cut them off after that. What’s really affecting me is that this happened in front of my classmates, and I feel like it changed how they see me. I’m very affected by that and can’t stop thinking about it. What made it worse is that the day before, one of my professors raised his voice at me and embarrassed me in front of my classmates as well. All of this has been affecting me more than I expected. Yesterday I reached a really low point and had thoughts about hurting myself, which honestly scared me. Now I feel like I have no personality or presence. It feels like people see me as weak or naive, and that’s why they think it’s okay to cross my boundaries. It’s starting to affect me deeply, and I don’t know how to stand up for myself without feeling overwhelmed or powerless.

Also, there’s a girl I like, and she was there when this happened. Now I feel really embarrassed to even talk to her. Do you think something like this can change how she sees me?