I had an affair and we got divorced - I know I was wrong. Do I get punished forever?
Hello, so I had an affair several years ago and we got divorced. I went to therapy, cut the AP off.
My ex and I coparent very well. We communicate effectively are mostly respectful, put our kids first (and yes I know at one time I did not do that). It has been over five years, I am remarried and I have a child with my new partner. My kids from my prior marriage love their sibling.
I was open to my new partner about what I did, my partner said they continued a relationship with me bc I did not blame my ex for my actions.
I have apologized to my children and told my children what I did was wrong and no excuses and they should not see it as ok behavior.
My ex, while we coparent well and seem to mostly get on fine, often posts items that are triggering, and we have children who are on the social media accounts and linked to my exs page.
We got divorced and It’s been over five years. I apologized profusely, I begged for forgiveness. I did try to go back and reconcile but my ex had a new partner while we were goin through divorce , and while they stopped seeing each other so we could reconcile, they did not cease communication and I felt as if I was being punished for my actions. I felt that my partner now wanted to keep me and a new partner, and I couldn’t voice how I felt, so I left. We had already finalized the divorce , so I just decided to give up on reconciliation bc I felt this was my punishment and did not know how long my punishment would continue and my partner having a second partner that they would not cease communication with even while living with me again was tough.
So I guess my question is, how do I cope with seeing the hateful stabs at me. I have apologized, I have gone to therapy. I am trying to live a good life. I do not condone cheating or affairs and I am terribly remorseful I ever engaged in that activity.
Any support or advice would be appreciated.