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How do you go about modernizing your makeup/personal appearance in this day and age?

There’s obviously been a huge increase in beauty standards lately. I’ve always been insecure about how I look and have done a lot of inner work on that, but I know there are real, effective things people do to get to their best self. What have you done that made a genuine difference?

Skin: I have patchy, red skin and lean on makeup to cover it, which apparently reads as “too much.” I’ve spent a lot of time and money trying to manage the redness itself, not just cover it. If you dealt with anything similar what actually worked long term, and what was a waste of money?

Makeup: I just did a color match at MAC and it’s clearly too green undertone for me. what foundation or concealer helps without looking cakey?

Eyebrows: I was a 2010 over plucker snd have had them microbladed but they are incredibly un even and do not suit my face. They are bleach blonde naturally and very bushy so I do minor upkeep with dying them weekly and cleaning up some strays but otherwise try and not touch them anymore.

I caught my reverse reflection on a Teams call recently and it was slightly horrifying. Seeing my face the way everyone else actually sees it made me realize how much I’d been ignoring.

I get Dysport every few months and have had to shorten the intervals as I’ve gotten into my 30s, not sure if that’s relevant.

Basically I want my whole look, skin, brows, makeup, to feel like a well put together, neutral version of myself. Not chasing trends, just want something that works. Appreciate any real experience!

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u/Valuable_Ad_8258 — 7 hours ago

Have you ever gotten through a loneliness slump?

Loneliness comes with a heck of a lot of side effects that keep you stuck and difficult to get back to world. Misreading social cues, losing your conversation skills, becoming overbearing or clingy when you finally do connect with people. Worst case is it leads to social anxiety and lost confidence (ask me how I know)

If for whatever reason you’ve found yourself in a place like this, how did you get out? Or if you didn’t fully get out, how did you find peace and sanity in the meantime?

Books? Films? Stoicism? Therapy? Just getting really honest with yourself? I’m genuinely open to anything that actually helped.

Currently my only solution has been to be adopted by extroverts but it’s not really been growing past that.
Thanks in advance for any advice!

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u/Valuable_Ad_8258 — 13 days ago