Post Divorce and Confusion
I posted my journey through this a little while back and it’s been quite a rough one. My wife and I divorced a couple months ago at this point and just getting through the divorce alone was emotionally draining. She had come out to me about two years ago when she expressed that she needed to explore her sexuality and we have both been through a lot in that time. She hasn’t been able to sever ties with the woman she originally started dating, but from what I’m told they are no longer together romantically, just as friends. Throughout this time we have been through multiple back and forths on if we can make this work, as we still feel such a strong and deep bond with one another. I still have major trust issues though and there have been periods of time where she has stated that if she could, she would have both of us. The other woman and I have not been on board with that, but there was a lot of dishonesty for a period of time, where I thought her and I were trying to make things work. She has been back and forth also in how she feels about her sexuality, at times telling me that she is a lesbian, and then other times where she takes it back and says that she didn’t really mean it and was just in a dark place mentally. When we have these conversations she still talks about having kids, a house, and a family with me and all the beautiful things that come with it. The trust issues are what ultimately lead to me stating we need to go through with the divorce, because it felt like a marriage I didn’t agree upon, even if the love was still there. It’s still a tough position to take though because I’m still torn on if we can get past this.
Im just wondering if there is anyone who has been through all of this and has come out on the other side and still made things work? At this point I’m just so tired of having conversations about the future and what things mean, I just want to live in the present. Any other men have wives/ex’s who constantly flip flopped on how they felt? I feel like I’ve come a long way in terms of accepting that there will be no clarity at the end of the day.