AITAH for canceling dinner after everyone changed the time except me?
I (28F) made dinner plans with four friends almost two weeks ago. We all agreed on 7:00 pm because one person had to work late and that was the only time everyone said they could make it. I booked the reservation and that was supposed to be it.
The day of the dinner, I was getting ready when I noticed I had a bunch of unread messages in the group chat. While I was busy at work, everyone had decided they wanted to push dinner back to 9:00 because someone wanted to grab drinks first and another person wasn't ready yet. Nobody tagged me or asked if that worked for me, they just started talking like the new plan was official. By the time I saw the messages, they were already saying see you guys at 9. I had already planned my evening around the original time, and staying out that late meant I wouldn't get home until close to midnight on a work night.
So I sent a message saying I wasn't coming anymore and told them to enjoy dinner. A couple of them got annoyed and said I was making a big deal out of a simple time change and could've just adjusted. My point was that if you're changing plans everyone already agreed to, shouldn't you at least check with the person who made the reservation before deciding for them?
Now one friend is saying I was being inflexible and another says I should've just met them later because it wasn't worth missing the night over two hours. I don't know, it just rubbed me the wrong way that everyone made the decision without me and expected me to go along with it. AITAH?