Navigating a newish relationship and having sex within it.
Hey everyone, I (33M) and my girlfriend of 6 months (35F) have been having a great relationship except for the sex.
Backstory:
I am coming out of a 10 year relationship that turned into a 4 year marriage (10 years total) that ended up sexless after about 1 year after we got married. Obviously that didn’t work out.
Currently in this relationship, I know she’s been unhappy with our sex life and has told me that she doesn’t enjoy sex with me. Before me, she had a lot of sex because she was only really into hookups and nothing permanent due to being hurt by someone previously. I have seen on her snap multiple times that she will randomly (once a month or so) sext one of these guys she hooked up with but never does anything physically with him. As for us having sex, I am working on it, but I feel like since she does this, she doesn’t actually want me as much as I think she does. Regardless of her doing this, I still want it to work with her and I want her to be loyal to me in every department.
She mentioned that what would turn her on about the other men is that they knew what they were doing sexually and were very dominant. In the messages I saw today, she mentioned him bending her over and making she squirt all over his place. I want to be that person, not him.
Is there a way that I can improve to fix this, or is this relationship one I should just forget and move on from?