Am I overreacting?
Hello! This is my first time sharing. I’m new to this group and happy to find a safe place to share. The first time I remember a red flag with my MIL was about a month after our wedding. We had my MIL and her husband over for dinner. I was in the kitchen washing dishes, my husband and his stepfather were on the porch having a drink. My MIL was sitting at the bar right in front of me when she started talking about my husband’s ex wife; I’m going to refer to her as C. She said that she ran into C’s mother and what a classy lady she is. I smiled and nodded, continuing to clean. My MIL continued, saying she was such a beautiful woman and so successful, and came from a respectable family. She said it bothers her and she hopes she didn’t cause their divorce. My smile had faded at this point, I asked her why it would be her fault. She said my husband had spent so much time with her after his father died, she thought he may had neglected C. I didn’t say much after that, she continued to compliment his ex wife. After they left, I brought it up to my husband, he blew it off, saying I exaggerated everything, his mother would never say that. The next thing that stands out, I hosted Christmas Eve that year. When I answered the door, my MIL and husband came in with a photo album. I welcomed them with a hug and took their coats. My MIL’s first words were, she had brought him a photo album she had put together for a Christmas present. I smiled warmly and said I’m sure he will love it. She said “ Well I hope it doesn’t upset you too much. “There’s a lot of pictures of him and C.” I choked back my feelings and said “ Of course it wouldn’t; please come in and get a drink and warm up.” Then I went to the bathroom and cried. I am a grown woman and shouldn’t let this bother me like it has. There has been over 11 years of this at this point. I’m open to constructive criticism but please be kind.