My mom said I can move out of I get a tattoo. Reasonable? (im 20)
I asked my parents for a tattoo about 1 year ago and was planning to get it in Japan, I was 19 at the time. They said no… so then I asked again in February 2026, now 20… still a no. Today I’ve decided to make an appointment for Sunday to get that tattoo. Showed my dad the design I want, he didnt say no. Showed my mom, she got angry and said that I could move out of the house if I get it.
Now here’s the thing… yes, I love under my parents roof, and yes I was raised in an Asian household.
But ever since I was 15, I’ve barely bothered my parents for money, if I did, it was only to borrow. Nit because they don’t let me but more of, if I have the money, I’d rather not further burden my parents since they don’t make much.
I paid for my own CARs, my own car insurance, my expenses, phone, MacBook. I take care of my own schooling. The only thing I really rely on them for, is housing. I love my parents and they’ve done so so much for me, bringing me to this country and giving me a better life, so in return, I helped as much as I could. I took care of most paperwork for my family since I was in 5th grade, I help them take care of my sister and brother, I bought my dad a car… it was a clean ass Mercedes, older and used but hella nice.
I don’t smoke, dont drink, dont party, nothing that would have to make them worry about me.
I’m in a long term relationship, I go to College, figured out Fafsa on my own, and have a Job.
Basically, I don’t bother them with anything unless I really need to (which is basically never).
And now I want this tattoo, and shes saying how I can move out? Like cmon. I’m still gonna get it, because for once, I need to do something big for myself.
Back story: my sister who is now 15 as much as I love this girl, shes put my parents through hell.
Got suspended for bringing a vape to school, IN MIDDLE SCHOOL, continuously vaped even when my parents ground her, she tries to hide it. GETS into problems at school… and makes my parents hella worried. Pierced her own ears, thwn WENT AND PIERCED her nose after my parents said no. All she got was phone taken away, yelled at then grounded for a week (literally a slap on the wrist). My mom never liked her vaping, she hated that she did that and was hella mad. But she had a talk w me once saying how it was because of my sisters mental health, which I get… but damn…
How is it this 15 yr old girl whos fone nothing but asked for money, piss my parents off, make my parents constantly worry gets to do so many more things.
I know my mom is gonna take it as disrespect, me getting this tattoo, because she said no. But damn,,, I’m 20, let me live. I do everything right. All my aunts and uncles always praises me, I’m literally every parent’s dream come true… LIKE HONESTLY.
Kicking me out over a tattoo? Is that rly nessecary?