Needing some advice 🩵
Hello. Just needing some advice as pregnant lady. I’m not with the dad but he said he wanted to be present in the baby’s life and help support me through the process. For example, he said he wanted to be at my next ultrasound. He had been pretty inconsistent with his communication but then we met in person to talk and I thought he would change his behavior. I am not trying to police his time but I also don’t appreciate the days long time lapses in messages when I am trying to have a conversation about baby. I’ve been trying to be very understanding of him and how he must be feeling. He was never sure if he wanted kids and I know he has a lot of things that he needs to work on as far as mental health goes. It makes me very sad that other people are asking about his child more than he is. I told him we would know gender by Tuesday and he has not reached out to me since Sunday. Is it fair for me to remove him from this process for the time being. His inconsistency causes me a lot of stress and anxiety. Or any advice on how many more ways I can express to him that I don’t need perfection just some effort and a little more consistency. I don’t want to rob him of these experiences because it’s his first time too but I also can’t continue my entire pregnancy with this anxiety.
Just to clear some things up I made the decision to continue the pregnancy even if that meant him not being around. I told him I had made the choice I could live with and that it was his turn to as well. That’s when he decided to be in the picture. Also, we were never together. Our relationship was strictly flirty texting with one night that ended up with me conceiving and I have never expected a relationship from him.