AITAH for not attending someone's second wedding to the same person?
For context- my boyfriend's sister got married.
A destination wedding that cost all family members thousands to attend, and immediate family wasn't given the option to not attend. They ALSO (same couple) are having a second wedding, 6 months after their first, here in the States so other people who couldn't go abroad, could attend. I've had recent brain surgeries that limit my income and physical abilities, and we also have 4 other weddings and my best friend's baby shower right around the same time. My boyfriend would still attend, but I tried to say that I would have to sit this one out due to finances. We quite literally went into debt to attend the first one. They've had an engagement party, 2 bridal showers, a bachelorette/bachelor TRIP, and a month-long honeymoon. My boyfriends mom told me I couldn't skip it because "weddings are important and she (bride) would be so disappointed." They said "oh we'll front the cost, and you guys can pay us back monthly." IS THIS NORMAL? Like how do people feel comfortable asking people to spend this obnoxious amount of money? Even AFTER expressing how difficult it will be to buy more flights. Yes, all events have been over a 5 hour drive, or 2 flights away.
My boyfriend said if they buy my ticket he's not paying them back because he absolutely feels all our reasoning was moreee than enough. But at this point, I'm feeling weird about how they talked to me, and how they are so self involved they can't see guests struggling just to celebrate someone else's big day.
And don't get me wrong, I love, love. I wish we could travel as much as we want - but it's not in the cards for us right now. And I feel as though that should be more than enough to decline a second wedding invite.