u/Visible_Guava679

Salaam,

I am a little confused how to go about this. My little brother recently told me he has a gf who is not Muslim, she is most likely agnostic at this point. Apparently she has voiced to him that she is interested in learning more about Islam because he told her he cannot eventually marry her if she is not Muslim. I've decided I'll answer any questions she has about Islam since she is worried about going to a masjid as she is afraid of judgement since she has tattoos and piercings.

My issue is that my brother does not understand why my mom is mad about him dating her. He says he can make his own decisions and he won't break up with her now bc he doesn't want to and the future if she doesn't convert he'll break up with her (idk what his timeline is). In my opinion he just wants to date her and wants us on board which we obviously won't be. I told him I won't support the relationship because it's haraam and I wouldn't support it even if she was Muslim (I'd probably get them to do their nikkah if she was Muslim). My other siblings and I, are all married and he's the baby of the family and he said that we brought home our significant others and my mom accepted them. The thing he's not understanding is that we all had jobs and all our partners were Muslim and we brought them home with the intention of marriage and we got married pretty quickly after the parents met.

What can I do to help my mom because she is very upset but does not believe in kicking out her son over this. And what can I do to help my brother because it seems that he has no intention of breaking up with the girl and is adamant that she's interested in Islam. I told him I'd talk to her and answer her questions but aside from that how can I tell him to not date her...

Thanks in advance for any advice!

Hello everyone,

If this is the wrong sub to post this on, im sorry, I just feel like reverts could give me a better understanding on this.

My little brother recently came to me and told me he is seeing a girl that is not muslim. Apparently before they met she had dated another muslim and had looked into Islam with the intention of maybe converting. I don't know if that was for the guy or for herself. Now in comes my brother and he wants to have a future with her. He is not super religious (not judging on what counts as religious because we cannot judge anyone), but regardless he does want his wife to be muslim and our family would not support it if she wasn't either.

Now my dilemma is that this girl is Christian but not super practicing either and my brother and her have apparently gotten into fights regarding her drinking and partying a lot. They broke up for a minute but got back together bc she said she wants to immerse herself more in our culture and religion and will work towards becoming Muslim one day if she feels it's right after doing more research. This is where I come into play, I do not support this relationship because I feel that she is bad for my brother. But he recently told me he'd like me to talk to her about Islam in a judgement free zone because she's scared to go to a masjid since she has a lot of piercings and tattoos.

Is it wrong for me to talk to her to answer her questions to the best of my ability? Is me agreeing giving my brother the feeling that I would support their relationship? I mean I guess if she genuinely converted and not for show for him then I wouldn't be opposed to them together, but I'm worried she's just saying all this to convince him to stay with her. I'm really confused and I'd love any advice from converts or people who are close to a convert.