r/converts

Assalamu Alaikum! I'm Jessica 18 years old female, looking for Muslim friends to connect with I'm a Muslim revert.Let’s get to know each other InshaAllah.

Hi, I come from an Christian background and I‘m currently learning more about Islam. I‘m still unsure and would really appreciate hearing from women, especially converts or women who had similar questions in the beginning.

What helped you on your journey? What made Islam feel right for you? What was difficult in the beginning? 💗

I (F) still live with my parents because i’m quite young yet an adult (this is needed context).

I reverted a while ago and i’ve been practicing in secret, because when i tried to test the ground before telling my parents their reaction was very negative.

Here context is needed: we live and always lived in Europe. My parents, who are part of the Baby Boomer generation both were convinced into believing that “Islam is vi0lenc3”, “Islam is t3rr0ristic” and so on and so forth. They were raised as Catholics but now they are both skeptics and atheists.

When they initially suspected that I might have revered to Islam, they “warned me” that: “There are lots of people online who radicalise young people to Islam so just that they can go and commit self sacrifice in the Holy War”.

First of all it doesn’t make sense that, even if “people“ (who?) needed someone to self sacrifice, they would look for a person from a secular country when Islam is the second most prominent religion worldwide. Second of all this is quite disturbing: they reduce muslims to vi0lenc3.

Thus I’ve never told them the truth because I’m scared they will get very anxious, aggressive and controlling (they already are, but things would get worse). Or maybe even beat me and/or risk my safety.

It’s funny because when i was a little girl they always told me: “We didn’t baptise you because religion has to be your own conscious choice, you will do whatever you want as an adult” yet i’m an adult and they got this aggressive.

Should I tell them the truth? I feel like a liar…

Hello everyone,

If this is the wrong sub to post this on, im sorry, I just feel like reverts could give me a better understanding on this.

My little brother recently came to me and told me he is seeing a girl that is not muslim. Apparently before they met she had dated another muslim and had looked into Islam with the intention of maybe converting. I don't know if that was for the guy or for herself. Now in comes my brother and he wants to have a future with her. He is not super religious (not judging on what counts as religious because we cannot judge anyone), but regardless he does want his wife to be muslim and our family would not support it if she wasn't either.

Now my dilemma is that this girl is Christian but not super practicing either and my brother and her have apparently gotten into fights regarding her drinking and partying a lot. They broke up for a minute but got back together bc she said she wants to immerse herself more in our culture and religion and will work towards becoming Muslim one day if she feels it's right after doing more research. This is where I come into play, I do not support this relationship because I feel that she is bad for my brother. But he recently told me he'd like me to talk to her about Islam in a judgement free zone because she's scared to go to a masjid since she has a lot of piercings and tattoos.

Is it wrong for me to talk to her to answer her questions to the best of my ability? Is me agreeing giving my brother the feeling that I would support their relationship? I mean I guess if she genuinely converted and not for show for him then I wouldn't be opposed to them together, but I'm worried she's just saying all this to convince him to stay with her. I'm really confused and I'd love any advice from converts or people who are close to a convert.

"The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts become fearful, and when His verses are recited to them, it increases them in faith; and upon their Lord they rely -" (Surah Al-Anfaal, Verse 2)

Mine are just piled on top of my kids toys in the living room. I would like some seasoned tips. Need something elegant and functional. I dont really have a lot of space to work with unfortunately. Any ideas welcome. Jazakallah.

Hello, and peace be upon you all. I want to share a guide I have made to being a convert from experience, I am a male and have to hide it in an Atheist family, so I can only speak from experience there, but if you're in a different situation you can still learn some valuable tips from this. Please note this is primarily targeted towards teenagers and young adults who still live under their parents roof and already know how to pray, what to recite, and have said their Shahada and already know the basics and pillars of Islam. Keep in mind this is for those who are actively oppressed, if you know for a fact your parents would be fine with you being Muslim, I highly recommend just telling them and being honest.

First tip: Don't ever, EVER tell your parents

I embraced Islam in 2024 and when I told my parents they got really, REALLY angry and I had to and it is the whole reason I have to hide my faith more intensely. Your faith is between you and Allah, If you have close Muslim friends you can tell it to them if you trust they won't say anything, but don't ever, EVER tell a non-Muslim that you have converted, as a rule of thumb, always assume somehow your parents will find out, so tell little people.

Second tip: How to hide being Muslim

First and most importantly, never have anything physical that pertains to Islam such as a physical Quran copy. Keep everything digital. My biggest tip is use DuckDuckGo for finding information about Islam, DuckDuckGo has a feature that instantly wipes all your cookies and history in case they go through your device. And also use a VPN, my recommendation is ProtonVPN, it's free and reliable. If your parents know how to use technology like mine do, they can access the router logs and see the sites you visit, incognito mode does not hide this, a VPN does. If you're reading the Quran, do so online, and clear your history as soon as you're done. To hide prayer, try and have a chair and desk in your room, and if you have a tv or monitor, have it in roughly the same direction as the Qiblah, and angle your chair in that direction and keep a remote on your armrest this is for incase your parents walk in, you can make it look like you were just watching TV. If you don't have a tv, keep a book on your desk and the second you hear that door even start to open, grab that book and pretend to be reading. Unfortunately if they talk to you, you will have to start your prayer over again, but Allah will reward you. Another tip, always assume if you have something that your parents can see that will out you as a Muslim, always assume they can and will find it.

Third Tip: Coping

I'm gonna be real, it's hard being a convert, I've struggled with suicidal thoughts after being discovered before (I'm fine now). Don't ever kill yourself, it isn't worth it. You're not alone, Allah loves you. Depression and anger issues are real struggles that will come with being a convert. I have fallen into pits of depression from my situation before, and the best way to cope is let your feelings out, you can talk to Allah, Allah listens. Allah is the one who can help you. Never stop praying, life is hard, but this life is but a test from Allah. If Allah has chosen you, and you specifically out of the billions on Earth to be Muslim, is that not a sign of his love?

Hi, I'm a culturally Christian (Lutheran) woman in my 30s, I have been raised in the religion but my family is not hugely religious, I went to confirmation school when I was 15 and did bible study and youth programs until I was 18. In my adulthood religion didn't really play a big part in my life, but now I'm approaching my mid-30s I've had some sort of awakening and I feel closer to God than ever - first I had this keen feeling of needing and missing something, and after realising that something was faith I'm now in an active seeking phase and my heart feels wide open. I've been to church a couple of times now and felt very peaceful.

Why am I in this sub then? I have two problems. My first issue is that I do not believe in the divinity of Jesus. I'm sure he was a very wise man touched by God, and that he was a prophet, but I do not believe he is one with God and divine. The second is that I feel equally drawn to Islam - I'm very impressed and touched about how people speak about their faith, I love the practice of wudu (I'm learning to do it and it really scratches and itch about ritualistic cleansing I didn't know I had) and I've tried on hijab, been to a mosque, prayed with the other women in there and even been in some Sufi events. Tonight I tried praying on my own for the first time and it just felt right. The thought of praying on my hands and knees on set times feels really grounding to me, a moment where I have to stop and give myself to God for a moment. I've also begun reading the Quran and listening to a podcast that explains the surah but that's slow going.

But giving up your old religion is scary, and I do feel at peace in the church too. It's just... Jesus is bit of an issue to my personal faith. I do believe we all worship the same One God and just go about it differently. I'm just not sure what my way is yet.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice?

I know that because of communism our islam is only cultural and practicing muslims started apearing only recent 5-10 years. As a Kazakh who also started practicing islam, is there anyone like me? And what is ur story?