u/bluebcrry

i’ve done many questionnaires but they’ve been no help. i’m mostly sure i’m an ethical type and likely extroverted but it’s really hard for me to figure out what my actual type is. i’d just appreciate help since im kind of new to socionics too. could someone like type me and question me? it’s a lot easier than doing a premade questionnaire haha

i did the official scs questionnaire!

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1-7TKsqjJKoPdZG1LC\_UCryznuwsMZ6J4c42pyVyVE3U/edit?usp=drivesdk

i relate an insane amount to both these types. not even just the subtypes but i mean e7 and e8 alone too, im totally sp instinct. yes i know they’re different triads but im on like a middle way between the two. everyone types me equally as either sp7 or sp8. there’s strong arguments for both. my questionnaires and descriptions of myself aren’t much help either. and yeees i’ve read character and neurosis, and descriptions many times!!! can someone give advice?? or just try to type me

is it normal for Ni suggestive types (SEE/SLE) to often nostalgic?? and get upset about it
maybe it’s just because i have bad trauma but i sometimes get extremely nostalgic and it really affects my mood

hi help me
yes ive read descriptions and character&neurosis but i still cant figure out which. also im not talking about purely subtypes!!! i fit both sp and sx

ok so this is a really stupid question but i’m fairly new to socionics and multiple people have told me if you’re se base you can’t be religious???😭😭 i’ve been considering SLE but i’m really unsure since i have a religion and try to be religious. i found religion as a teenager, but in a way i kind of force myself to believe it from fear of being thrown into hell and being in pain forever, hence why i try to be religious. but i’ve always struggled and felt extremely disconnected from religion. it’s peaceful but yeah sometimes i wish i wasn’t religious so i could do all the crazy shit you see in tv shows lol. i sin a lot tbf. but holy yap anyway i don’t get why people say you can’t be Se base and religious???

can someone explain these two to me?? how do i figure out which i am? i’ve read all of SoL and other books but i have no idea which i am

i’ve read all descriptions and books yet i really struggle with figuring out which subtype of e7 i am as i fit all of them. would someone please explain an easier way to differentiate which i am instead of just reading descriptions?

self-explanatory. considering 1V but i’m unsure and wondering about this. i’m an influential and motivational person but i don’t (blatantly) force myself and ideologies onto others

can someone please help me figure out which of these i am? or even SEI

i struggle with realising things are inevitable and when i do it really upsets me, i actually sometimes spiral when i realise things wont turn out how i imagine them too. i’m not often nostalgic and try to repress those feelings but sometimes i let it get the better of me and drown in my nostalgia. it makes me feel physically sick. i constantly try to remember and go over past events which occurred in my life, especially traumatic ones, but i often fail with this and can never fully remember things. therefore i attempt to write them down but i give up because it seems useless (despite the fact deep down i don’t think its useless). i sometimes tend to overthink future scenarios, and worry about the outcome of bad situations i get myself in, despite all the consequences i think about being irrational. when i’m bored time goes slow, but when i’m having fun it goes extremely fast. i get upset realising how fast something fun goes. sometimes before it even starts i dread how it ends. i’m really bothered and affected by boredom and long periods of time being bored. i need structure to my life, i don’t like flexibility and i need to know what i’m doing each day

kind of vague so i can elaborate

hi!! i’ve done a lot of research within the past 24 hours and figured out i’m not actually an e4 despite thinking i was😓 pretty sure i’m either an e2 or e9, but i’m struggling figuring out which. i swear i looked at triads and all but i relate to both heart triad and the way e9 represses their gut! ao idk if i’m just gut with a strong heart fix and vice versa. i think my head fix is e7; i relate a lot to e7 but i don’t think i’m head dominant in any way. anyway, apart from just saying ‘look at triads’ or telling me to read books (which i have done multiple times, and i have read today), please could someone actually give advice? i really appreciate outside perspectives because i’m audhd and have quite a skewed perception of myself and my core desires/fears.

or even e4 at all tbf. pretty sure i am though! i did type as so4 but i don’t seem to fit the characteristics. i’m stuck between these two as i have a lot of attributes from both. please don’t say ‘ignore subtypes’ or give me basic questions like ‘do you care about your security or a partner blah blah’ because i do also mean instincts alone and those questions don’t give much insight. i’d just appreciate being typed by someone please

pretty sure i’m e4 but suggest another type if you want. i’m gonna waffle a bit but i’d appreciate insight. i tend to channel my envy into both anger in sadness. i am an extremely angry person, but only to people i’m close with. people i don’t know too well say i’m quite positive but just quiet. i can easily snap though, in public. my parent says that i’m extremely angry all the time and too lazy, even though i think i work fairly hard. i can complain a lot and be openly moody but only toward my parent, nobody else. i don’t want others to worry about me much. deep down i do but i dislike it when they bring it up. as a child i was constantly sick and all my classmates would make fun of me for never being in school which affected me a lot. i’ve always felt much too overdramatic and i only repress my emotions around people i’m not close with. i’m quite competitive (specifically only for stuff i really want) but i don’t always take out this competitiveness on others. it depends how i already feel about them. i channel toward both them and myself. i don’t want to embarrass myself around whom i envy, its a big fear i have. when surrounded by people i dislike i make it very clear i dislike them. for example had a clingy friend who i used to hate and i really envied how oblivious she was to everything. i therefore criticised her quite a bit for how she was. i would constantly compare myself to her. for example, at the time we were both overweight and quite unhealthy. i then worked to eat healthier and bad sure she knew i did. when we did sports together in school i would act much fitter than i was and act like i enjoyed exercise. i also wanted the authorities around me to realise, in hopes that they would notice me. i have a lot of hatred for people inside of me, and i can hold grudges but outwardly i still treat these people the same. i constantly feel very self-conscious and unconfident but i hide this and don’t let anyone see it apart from people really close to me, like my mother. i like confronting people who think their arrogant because seeing their reactions are funny. i’m quite a loud person around people i’m comfortable with. also jokey, i can be a bit of a trouble-maker and quite rebellious against authorities, especially those i dislike and see as stupid. i’ve only ever loved one person, who hates me to bits and probably doesn’t even think of me. i always find it hard to move on. because in reality i don’t think i actually like them and just like the memory i have of them. i refuse to reach out first. i also like my friend groups and used to get upset nobody at my school/work accepted me. i then learnt to accept nobody will truly like me so i sucked it up and got on with it. my therapist tells me i’m too independent and self-reliant. she says i cant make true friendships because i don’t share my emotions enough. i think shes stupid for this but in a way i agree. after she said this i withdrawed and no longer contact her.

please ask me to elaborate if needed, i’m really happy to as i never get much of a chance to talk about myself.

i’ve typed as both these types multiple times before, and often struggle telling which subtype i am. i’ve been typed as both but multiple people an equal amount of times.
i don’t find instincts alone beneficial either as i relate to both instincts equally too. and yes i’ve read character & neurosis, and other ennea books. could someone help me figure it out??? i’ve already spoke to someone on this subreddit who was very helpful and we narrowed it down to me being e4, and so4 but not totally sure about it.

hi! im kind of new to socionics but i seem to relate to these two types very equally and have a hard time figuring which i am, could someone help me and give me advice on how to differentiate them, apart from OBVIOUS ways??

tell me what you think and give advice please! i’ve began to think that i am most likely so4 (possibly e9), as i fit a lot of traits attributed to it. however, there are some that i don’t fit, main ones being that i don’t necessarily show everyone my suffering and externalise it extremely, as i know it will make people dislike me more. i only do this to people very close to me. i tend to act happy and positive and my classmates tend to tell me i smile more than average (i am 7+9 fixed though so double positive). i am also not as insecure and self-conscious as the description implies. i do feel unconfident and other similar qualities, but i tend to hide it and internalise those feelings, appearing more strong and shameless, compared to my other so4 friends.

the thing is i don’t feel i am sx4 as i’m not competitive and arrogant like in the description. i just don’t embody the sx4 persona overall. i do openly show my anger but only to people close to me, otherwise i repress in public areas (most of the time). i’m also more unaware of my envy and it translates more into sadness and admiration.
and as for sp4, i still externalise my suffering and am more of a ‘crybaby’ around people i’m close with. this goes against the beliefs of sp4. i do work to improve sometimes due to my envy but i’m more dreamy and idealistic and tend to drown in my envy and sadness. i’m not a workaholic.

anyway i suppose i would like to know what people think?

i keep forgetting they actually share a daughter because neither of them ever take care of her, it really confuses me. where is she meant to be staying?