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We got rings for each other as promise rings. Two years in, we were prepping to get married- i discovered he had been physically cheating on me with his past hookup while i was doing ldr and planning the wedding.
Tried to work for 6 months post that- until he said “let me fix myself and come back to you let me try properly to make things work out.”

It has been two months since no contact. He has a private account and we dont follow each other anymore at all. He runs a business, and he doesnt manage any social media but he made a random guest appearance for a product and he still was wearing our promise ring.

Mind you, i dont follow him at all. My friend noticed it on his business because she has remained following his business (she used to support- she just ended up forgetting to remove his business account and it landed up in her feed).

What do yall make of it. Avoidants here, whats your take? Just out of curiosity.

Either way I dont plan on forgiving him ever or ever picking up where we left off. The damage was far greater than the immense love i had for him.

Hello, Assalam Alaikum.

Im looking for vendors that help in making notice boards with cork material or those green pin board type things that go on walls. Amazon lists the bigger ones at around 6-7k and thats absolutely out of my budget.
I was hoping that direct vendors would maybe lower the price, and Id also like to support local businesses in the process.

If anyone has any contacts, please do let me know! I would love a referral.

Salaam

Man all these bangalore cats adoption and bangalore cats network and all they dont respond or take weeks to respond “already adopted/hi yeah available still can contact xyz”. I’m looking to adopt from independent fosters preferably. Any leads? Ive fostered many many kittens in the recent years and nursed them back to health. Ive also had my own cats about fifteen ago, but had to rehome them when my family was going through a crisis. Now that im earning and want to start my family (of kitties ofc. no kids ever.) id love to bring two home. Please do dm if there are any foster parents 🌼

Hello guys. I know a sister who’s in need of financial assistance and she wants to earn a steady source of income. She needs to move out of her house soon, and is looking for remote jobs that can sustain her and pay her well. If anyone has any leads, it would be very helpful.
She has done content writing before and she does art as well, very good at drawing comic art like in Japanese comics. She left content writing from her previous workplace as they were making her write fake reviews on glassdoor and google reviews and it did not sit well with her from an islamic pov. She also can do ghostwriting and all. She’s very creative and well educated and has had a very good academic record. She might be open to taking on other roles as well depending on what the roles are.
Please dm if there’s any leads…

Hello guys. I know a sister who’s in need of financial assistance and she wants to earn a steady source of income. She needs to move out of her house soon, and is looking for remote jobs that can sustain her and pay her well. If anyone has any leads, it would be very helpful.
She has done content writing before and she does art as well, very good at drawing comic art like in Japanese comics. She left content writing from her previous workplace as they were making her write fake reviews on glassdoor and google reviews and it did not sit well with her from an islamic pov. She also can do ghostwriting and all. She’s very creative and well educated and has had a very good academic record. She might be open to taking on other roles as well depending on what the roles are.
Please dm if there’s any leads…

I have a remote job so location does not matter too much as i usually stay home but i would like to live not too far away from haralur. I have two cats with me.
My budget is around 15k. Please dm with any leads! Thank you.

I’m in my early thirties now and I’m doing psychology. Not earning great. I cant afford expensive tuition for college or anything like that anymore. The next choices i make will be lifelong. Where can I migrate to at this stage in life?

Long story short. A few months before our marriage i found out my partner had been called into the police station on account of groping his past hookup. They couldn’t find evidence so the girl couldn’t file a case. She was a little whack too so I’m not sure what really happened but at this point i trust nothing. But a little less than two weeks since I left his country he would meet up with her in his office and sleep with her. Well stand with her. Idk haha. When i found out and asked him why, he said he did it because he felt unloved. Which is so much crap because i still remember, when i matched the evidence that girl gave me, he was texting me he cant wait to get married to me at the same time that he was texting her begging her to meet for a quickie.

Problem is, i lived with my fiance for two years. I loved every moment of it. He turned up, ran behind my train and made me laugh, did all sorts of things. He remembered whatever I’d wanted, and it was always the small things.. like if i wanted to switch off the fan mid-sleep, he’d wake up and switch off the fan faster even if he was in a deeper sleep than i was. It was those things that made me fall for him.
He cheated on me two months into ldr. It shattered my sense of reality. I lost weight and couldn’t function. And he came to my country, tried to make things right but then i found out he sexted other girls on reddit. He said that he did it because i told him i was moving on and seeing other people after i found out he cheated on me. It really broke me. I guess i just expected that if he was trying to repair things he would turn up fully. I cried and just left, and then immediately cashed him to a resto and my best friend turned up and they had a heated argument. After that when he went back to his country, he just… stopped turning up. I would message him and try to fix things. He said that there was a barrier now that prevented him from loving me. He started to spend more and more time with his friends.. and would update me about his life via email because I’d blocked him everywhere else except email and WhatsApp- and told him not to message on WA anymore.

After a while i actually sat down to process the relationship… it had been one year of me trying to recover pathetically our relationship. I kept going back to him despite how much he hurt me. So i just removed him from all my socials, and told him to send my stuff back from his country.
I cut off all active line of communication with him because I’d keep reading his emails and my whole day revolved around him while he just went out and hung out with friends. It slowly became that i would wait for his texts and hed spend the whole night at his friends cafe playing cards with strangers and old friends. And one day when i asked him for his presence, he said he “had plans” and that’s when it hit me. After one year it hit me that i needed to leave him. So i asked him to send me my stuff back, and suddenly he said he hates how its the end of us. His last message was that he’d work on things and get back to me, but it’s been a week since. I messaged him regarding logistics of the package ands postage but there’s been nothing on his end. It hurts so much- to go from venue planning to being ghosted all in the course of a year.

Question is- will he come back? Do avoidabts come back? I was very pathetic and cried to him and told him he hurt me and’s still gave him a chance again and again. I dont know maybe he lost all attraction for me because i didnt have the self respect to walk away. I couldnt bring myself to turn my back on the man that switched off the fan or stayed up all night for a week to help me with my assignments with so much love… sigh.

I dont think he would ever work on himself- but do you think he’ll at least grieve us? Not that i will ever accept him. But i guess i just would like an ego boost that he at least remembers. The past one year has been so traumatic and pathetic. Ive been in therapy and diagnosed with a bunch of depression related things and cptsd. What do you think he thinks like?

Tldr; ex fiance cheated and then grew distant. Now he doesnt reply to my texts. Do people like this come back? Do they ever feel grief? Whats the thought process behind this kind of a person?

Please be kind. Im already struggling with a lot. I was such a bad beech before i met this guy and now im beginning to find pieces of myself all over again, so please be kind while i navigate this 🌸

Hello!

After having a very unsuccessful unrelated career, Im trying to pivot into game dev. I have no background of coding or anything at all- but Im a great freakin writer. I was originally looking at game writing and narrative design but i guess Malaysia doesnt seem to have to offer roles in that specifically. I am okay to learn Unity since its free, i guess- but what else can I do? What skills are in demand that are realistically learnable by someone like me? Im in my late twenties and I would love to actually do something that has an opportunity to pay well… as everyone would.

I would say I have immense knowledge in gaming. I’ve practically gamed ever since I was a kid, grew up with consoles from the early 2000s and yeah i just love gaming. Im more inclined towards the art of storytelling. So what do i do and learn that would get me hired in a job like that? Build a portfolio on twine? What else? Nothing related to coding or figma or alladat.. is there a chance for me to add value in the field or shall I drop the idea? I just know im a great writer and I can build compelling worlds and Ive run my own versions of dnd and have always had people come back and say I have a way with weaving worlds and storylines and all. And im just passionate about gaming in general. Ive played so many titles Ive lost count. I could go on.

Im ready to put in the hardwork and navigate the field. I would love to get any inputs and any advice at all.