r/IslamIsEasy

Salams Everyone,

I’m a 15-year-old Muslim kid. You may have seen me before so sorry for the distrubence but it's gotten to much. still believe in Allah, I pray when I can, I try to be a decent person, and I want to keep the basics (prayers, pillars, good character). But I’m so damn tired.

For the past year it’s been nonstop pressure. My dad is deep in “Make Hijrah” content, watching videos about moving to Medina to study the deen, talking about how we should all go there, how it’s cheap, how it’s peaceful, how we need to follow every sunnah the Prophet did. My brother agrees enthusiastically. My mom plays constant nasheeds in the morning and MAKES us watch Jummah online if we don’t go to the masjid. Even normal greetings are “Salam alaikum.” My dad wears the kufi everywhere. The house feels like it’s always in deen mode.

Then the algorithm hits me with strict scholars (Shaykh Assim, etc.) saying music is haram, dating is haram, talking to girls is haram, everything is haram. I see 10/10 Muslims on my FYP living super strict lives and it makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong for wanting normal stuff. I have a girl I really like (Ana) — we talk every day, pet names, hearts, “I love yous,” respectful, no sexual stuff. But even that makes me feel guilty because of all the rules I see.

I just want the simple version: pray my prayers, do the pillars, be kind, date respectfully, listen to music, game, travel, enjoy life. I don’t want to be a scholar or live super religious 24/7. I want to be free like I was in middle school. But right now my chest is heavy 8-10/10 most days. It makes me want to puke. I feel alone, like I’m the only one who wants balance. I see kids in Japan and Korea living freely and it hurts. I love my family but I’m starting to get mad at them because it never stops.

I know there are different opinions on music and dating. I choose the more balanced ones. But the loud strict voices + family intensity make me feel like I’m failing or that I might not stay Muslim in the future. I just want to live normally without feeling restricted or guilty all the time.

Is this normal? Am I the only one? How do other young muslims deal with the pressure and still find peace?

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ:

بُنِيَ الْإِسْلَامُ عَلَى خَمْسٍ: شَهَادَةِ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا رَسُولُ اللهِ، وَإِقَامِ الصَّلَاةِ، وَإِيتَاءِ الزَّكَاةِ، وَحَجِّ الْبَيْتِ، وَصَوْمِ رَمَضَانَ.

(رواه البخاري ومسلم).

On the authority of Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"Islam is built upon five (pillars): testifying that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, establishing prayer, paying Zakat (obligatory charity), performing Hajj (pilgrimage) to the House (the Kaaba), and fasting in Ramadan." (Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The meaning of "Islam is built upon five" is that there are five acts through which the completeness of a person's Islam is realized. A Muslim must perform these five outward acts because they are the pillars of Islam. Through these pillars, one achieves the perfection of their faith. If a person misses any one of them despite being capable of performing it, then their Islam is incomplete.

Why is it that when someone follows only the Qur’an, they are portrayed as if they are guilty of every major sin known to mankind? Have you ever reflected on what your religion has become? Do you let other men do your thinking for you?

Why is it considered unacceptable for people to study and analyze the most widely read book in the world without relying on hadith, yet perfectly acceptable to analyze it through the lens of hadith? Can someone give me a reasonable and logical answer to that?

I’m asking those who are capable of critical thinking. To those who have divided their religion, please don’t comment under this post. It’s for your own good—I promise.

I'm asking these respectfully and in good faith. I'm genuinely interested in how these are understood.

1. Abu Bakr & Umar

Why should I accept Abu Bakr's caliphate when:

Sahih al-Bukhari reports that Fatimah (ra) remained angry with Abu Bakr until she died over Fadak.

Sahih al-Bukhari reports that Ali (as) delayed giving bay'ah until after Fatimah's death.

Historical works such as *Tarikh al-Tabari* contain reports that Umar threatened the house of Fatimah.

How do you reconcile these reports with the legitimacy of the first caliphate?

2. Aisha

How should I understand Aisha's participation in the Battle of the Camel against Imam Ali (as), who was the caliph at the time? How is this reconciled with the obligation to obey the legitimate ruler?

3. Tawassul

If tawassul is accepted by many scholars (e.g. the hadith of the blind man), why is saying "Ya Husayn" considered shirk by some if the belief is that Allah alone grants all help and Husayn is only sought as a means?

I'm looking for respectful, evidence-based answers, not insults or sectarian attacks.

When you are going to see posts of them with millions of views and hundreds and thousands of shares saying they think non-muslim men are better. (They date, they sleep with every other men)

And when you go out and get approached more by non-muslims and get fantasized by them then know it’s because of their propaganda (they have made it as if you as a pious Muslim woman is approachable for their filthy intentions).

These hadith rejecting kafir feminists aren't Muslims and they love what they are which isn't a Muslim.

You don't care to distinguish between a group of fitnah and actual Muslims and when it is going to spread between all of us you’ll see its harms.

It doesn't need kindness, it needs distinction between both groups.

A self proclaimed Hijabi does her crap, says how she thinks like that and does this as a Hijabi while all she is a woman with scarf and full of tight cloths and make up.

A woman who properly covers will not be same, and women of this group will not be doing wrong of same digits.

A woman who already genuinely covers properly and it is a compromise for her will never be same as these.

These fake Muslims and fake Hijabis (and fake pious Muslim men) are going to ruin everything for us if we don't distinguish between them.

And with all other harms it will also bring gender wars because apparently you see these people doing wrong and you think it is a Muslim as well, it is similar to every other woman or man I see.

“let me avoid marriage or else I may suffer”

As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa raḥmatullāhi wa barakātuh!

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Assalamualaikum

I'm writing this post in the middle of the night, exhausted, and my message or train of thoughts may be messy.

I came across videos of women in countries like Iran and Afghanistan. What they experience is absolutely horrific....

Now, I get this fear.. what if my faith IS the issue? And what if by wearing my hijab, even though I love it, choose it, and feel comfortable in it, means that I support oppresion?

Women in so many countries cannot take their hijab off and are forced..

Shouldn't I take mine off to show support?

I feel so-so guilty...

Struggling heavily with it all. Not sure why I'm posting this and what exactly I want to hear..

Feel free to dm me, or just comment anything...

No hate under this post, please, I've seen enough hatred already.

i remember how alive this sub once was, i never participated but i enjoyed reading the posts and comments and people's views, but look at it now, nothing but a wasteland , a breeding ground for kufar who keep spreading their corruption, sad, but this is what reddits mods do.

Since it is the start of Muharram, I have been hearing a out following the Ahlulbayt. Who are they?

As Salam Aleykoum,

comment : I’m not fluent in english so please be gentle !!

Right now I'm taking religion classes and a question came to me. Unfortunately, my teacher can’t answer me right now, and I don't really know who to ask.

I have to put it down because I feel really weird right now, I don't want to fall into shirk.

Allah is al ´Alîm, He knows everything from all eternity and He already knows who will go to heaven and who will go to hell. But in this case, some people will go to hell in spite of themselves, because Allah has decided it? However, I can understand because **الله**\*\* does whatever He wants with his creatures. But in this case, we do not choose our actions since it is **الله** \*\*who creates them? He is Al Khaliq, the only creator, which means that we don’t create our actions but only **الله** creates them. I don't understand at all when free will comes into play in this case. Because in Islam will enter paradise only those who have earned it by their faith and their actions. Because if we do good deeds it is by the grace of Allah, just as if we commit sins it is **الله** who also decided it, right?

To summarise, I wonder:

\- Why did **الله**\*\* \*\*create people to go to hell, if in the end we are not in control of ourselves and it is Al Khaliq who creates our actions? (Thank you for correcting me if I'm wrong I'm here to learn)

\- what is free will?? Since in the end it is **الله**\*\* \*\*who decides and knows what we are going to make?

Thank you for being patient and respectful in answering me. Consider that this question can help someone who wants to enter Islam and who asks questions, a convert in search of learning, or simply a Muslim who asks himself questions and who wants to avoid staying in the dark, and wants to improve his relationship with **الله**\*\*.\*\*

Hope it is clear enough.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ رَضِيَ اللهُ عَنْهُمَا، قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ:

بُنِيَ الْإِسْلَامُ عَلَى خَمْسٍ: شَهَادَةِ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا رَسُولُ اللهِ، وَإِقَامِ الصَّلَاةِ، وَإِيتَاءِ الزَّكَاةِ، وَحَجِّ الْبَيْتِ، وَصَوْمِ رَمَضَانَ.

(رواه البخاري ومسلم).

On the authority of Abdullah bin Umar (may Allah be pleased with them both), who said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"Islam is built upon five (pillars): testifying that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, establishing prayer, paying Zakat (obligatory charity), performing Hajj (pilgrimage) to the House (the Kaaba), and fasting in Ramadan." (Narrated by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Virtues of Salam (Islamic Greeting)

• A Path to Paradise: It fosters love and affection among believers, which is a condition for the perfection of faith.
• Great Reward: You receive thirty rewards (Hasanat) when offering the full greeting.
• A Means for Forgiveness: Offering the greeting is considered an act that earns God's forgiveness.
• Spreading Love and Unity: It removes psychological barriers and grudges between people, bringing hearts closer together.
• A Noble Character: It is one of the best and most beautiful traits of Islam, combining the spread of goodness with kind words.
• A Sign of Humility: Taking the initiative to greet others reflects the humility and good character of a Muslim.
• Spreading Security: Salam is a declaration of peace and friendliness, serving as a means to foster tranquility within the community.