u/Visual-Process-866

My girlfriends childish. I don’t mean this like she has bad manners or throws tantrums every 5 minutes. She’s pretty smart and very kind, she also has autism. What I mean when I say childish is just that she often can resemble a child or do childish stuff. She often talks in a baby voice (idk if it’s intentional or not) watches kid shows, has an adult pacifier and sometimes act very dependent. I know she never really got to live her childhood, which is definitely why she’s like this. I still love her more than anything, but sometimes those traits get annoying

My girlfriend (31) has BPD, DID and major depression. We’ve been dating for about a year now, but we were friends long before we got together. She’s had years of therapy and medication, the recent years she started showing improvement, which is why she wanted to pursue a relationship with me. She has shown a lot improvement this year, but recently it seems like she just worsened a lot. Her depression came back, she’s paranoid, she hasn’t been at work for 2 weeks, she skipped 3 therapy sessions and she’s visibly more agitated, restless and anxious. I’ve tried talking to her multiple times but she just shuts me out. Something definitely triggered her into this, but I don’t know what, and it’s impossible to get contact with her. I honestly don’t know what to do, I just want her to be okay. I feel guilty, there’s something I should do but I just don’t know what and it’s eating me alive