u/VoyagerCestVivre

I had ICL surgery about 2.5 weeks ago and I’ve been having a pretty stressful recovery, so I wanted to see if anyone else has gone through something similar.

Right after surgery, my eye pressure shot up to 40. They gave me oral meds and by the next day it dropped to 20, so I thought the issue was resolved. Over the next two weeks my vision was honestly amazing - super clear and I was really happy with the results.

Then at my 2-week post-op appointment, after being on steroid drops the whole time, they found my eye pressure had gone up again to 48. The surgeon said I might be a “steroid responder,” but I’m still worried the ICL itself could be contributing somehow.

They gave me Combigan and my pressure dropped to 13 within about an hour. But after leaving the clinic, my left eye suddenly became extremely blurry. I went back immediately and they found a corneal abrasion (not sure if this was caused by the pressure or dry eye).

Now it’s been about 4 days and my left eye is still very blurry. The doctors say:

• the ICL looks well positioned,
• healing otherwise looks good,
• and my optic nerves look healthy.

But I’m still really anxious about the pressure spikes and whether there could be long-term damage from pressures getting that high twice in such a short time.

I’m also struggling mentally with the fact that this was elective surgery. Part of me keeps thinking I should have just stayed with contacts instead of taking these risks.

Has anyone here:

• had major pressure spikes after ICL?
• been told they were a steroid responder?
• had blurry vision from a corneal abrasion after surgery?
• gone on to recover fully?

Would really appreciate hearing other people’s experiences because I’ve been spiraling a bit over the possibility of future glaucoma or permanent vision problems.

I’m a guy in my late 20s and over the past three years I’ve noticed a pattern in my dating life that I’m trying to understand.

What’s confusing is that before this period, I had no problem being in long-term relationships. I spent most of my late teens and early twenties in relationships that lasted years.

Now, I’ll meet someone and we hit it off really well. There’s strong chemistry, we connect easily, and the first couple of months feel amazing. We’re emotionally close, physically intimate, and I genuinely start to fall for them.

Then around the 2–3 month mark, something shifts. They start becoming a bit distant. I feel it and start getting anxious because I don’t understand what changed. Not long after, they end things and say something vague like “we’re not compatible,” without really explaining why.

This has happened enough times that I feel like there’s a relationship dynamic I’m contributing to without realizing it.

I’m not interested in advice like “be less nice” or “act more distant.” I don’t want to play games or change who I am. I’m trying to understand what pattern might be happening so I can build something that actually lasts.

Has anyone experienced this or recognized this pattern in themselves?