u/Warm-Perspective-916

Idc about the generalization I made because it’s true you can see this all over the continent of Africa and here I am being forced to go to church and groomed into modesty and being someone’s slave while my neighbors are outside with their daughters relaxing and letting them wear shorts like are you fucking kidding me? About to go and waste hours sitting in a church classroom with teachers who are failed pastors screaming I hate Africa and I hate African parents and African culture take this dirty ass religion shit somewhere else instead of giving birth to kids and taking away their free will sterilize yourself

It’s as if the African community doesn’t want to progress at all. I’m so sick and tired of young Africans being groomed to condition suffering and being forced to share shit with other Africans that aren’t hungry enough to get it on their own and build something for themselves. I’m so sick of seeing the god comments in videos about Africans because it’s like these people don’t want to open their eyes to shit because they’re so comfortable in the position they’re in that they’re too selfish to stop that behavior that holds everything back. But I’ve just been so tired of a majority of Africans’ mindsets in general to the point I can’t be tired anymore. I felt it affected it back then, but I’m done with holding back and trying to lift up people or have hope in people who want to stay down. Then these people have the audacity to expect stuff from the younger generation. Stuff should’ve already been built for us. The continent of Africa is fucked and stupid. Don’t care how disrespectful those words are.

That’s the route I’m going to go, so any experiences by those who have already gone this route?

The title is blunt for a reason. I don’t care anymore. Honestly, my family is the type that’ll always let each other know where one of them is going, and I’m to the point where I’m hating everything they do, but especially growing to hate that one specific detail because I don’t care when you’re going. I don’t care if my mother’s going to work or my father’s going to the grocery store or my half-brother is going for a walk. You can get into a car crash, and I still wouldn’t care. So stop trying to remind me of your existence. I don’t care.

This behavior by African parents is the exact reason why African kids are saying they won’t be sending money back home and are cutting their families off fully, or at least financially. Because truthfully, African parents can’t create shit for themselves, and they’re way too selfish, miserable, and hateful to build anything for the kids they’re having and the generations after them. They only care about themselves and a select amount of people, which never tends to be their kids.

Just because they raised you, which a majority of African parents shouldn’t have done because they shouldn’t have had kids in the first place, and if they were smart, they would have looked at other options regarding pregnancy and bringing a human into such a toxic community. But they didn’t, because they’re just as selfish and want everyone else to suffer while following this patriarchy that has never benefited them.

Back on topic, African parents think that just because they raised you, especially if you’re an African kid in the Western world, they deserve something in return, which they don’t. African parents do not understand what it takes to be parents. They do not know the definition of what a parent is. All they think is that bringing kids into this world automatically forms a family. But how can you form a family when nothing is stable?

I’m so sick of this selfish behavior that these people can’t evaluate and realize is wrong. Because genuinely, in this day and age, you may as well call me ignorant, but no child from a “good” family should have to work their ass off to carry the burden of what their parents didn’t think to do because their parents thought they invested enough money into them by moving to the Western world.

I shouldn’t have to feel obligated to share shit with my family, and they shouldn’t automatically come to the conclusion that when I have money or something valuable, it means, “Let’s share it” or “Let’s split it.” I should be able to have my own wealth without worrying about that, and I shouldn’t have to deal with my grown-ass 51-year-old mother sneaking into my room, stealing my money because she can’t afford shit, and then claiming she didn’t steal it. It’s not that hard to be a decent human being. Seriously.

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Though it’s every other Sunday now that I have to go to church, before COVID I went every Sunday. My heart mourns for those who have to go to church every Sunday because nobody asked for this. Nobody asked. It’s like these people don’t understand basic human rights. If I don’t want to waste my weekend going to a place where people scream and pretend to pass out from the Holy Spirit while still suffering in life but believing in Him, there’s nothing wrong with that. But African parents can’t seem to get that. There are only 2 days for the weekend. Why would you think I would want to go to a place that I never chose to go to and was forced into right when I was born? Nobody wants to be born into this. It’s ridiculous. I would very much rather be a Western kid who can be excited for the weekend because I’m able to play video games during those 2 days instead of mourning what should be my free days because I have to be surrounded by a bunch of weird ass uncles and aunties. I don’t understand why African parents can’t seem to get that everyone doesn’t want to follow their path in life. In fact, the way they live should be a tutorial of what not to do for those starting life. It’s just really disgusting how they force all this shit on us right when we’re born, yet bring nothing to the table, no generational wealth, nothing, but still claim to be angels.