AITA for not wanting my friend as a bridesmaid since she is poor
In college I was in a friend group of 5 other people. One of them I don’t talk to anymore, three of them I asked to be in my wedding as bridesmaid and the post is about Sara ( fake name).
I have one issue with Sara and that is her money habits. She is lovely besides this. My issue with Sara is that she expects other people to foot the bill and since I make the most out of my friend group they usually look at me to cover her cost.
Sara is the main pusher of this. If I ever bring it up she claims I am looking down on her for being poor and that it isn’t her fault that teachers don’t make much money. It has happened over and over again. If I say no, she basically has a tantrum ( in my eyes) and I get called for being selfish.
It’s annoying, and my other friend also have gotten annoyed with it. I decided I didn’t want her as a bridesmaids. I don’t want to deal with her whining about money or have to spent my money to cover her cost.
I tried to call her to tell her why she wasn’t going to be a bridemaid before I told the other 3 girls. I knew it would be a shock and I didn’t want her to learn from someone else. She never got back to me. I tried to call her three times. This weekend I asked the other women and they said yes.
One of them posted online saying how excited she was and I got a call from Sara. I explained why nicely and we got into an argument.
She claims I am punishing her for being poor and I told her that her money issue is the main reason. She is shit talking to the friend group at the moment and I want an outside opinion on this