Aitbf for wanting my bf to break up with her situationship
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The cast: marry: my best friend who has a terrible habit of picking the most a holes guys to date
Cam: the creep marry is seeing now
Friends: friends
Me: yours truly
I am sorry for the long and probably confusing story english is my second language so i hope i did well.
Story: so marry (age 22) has been my best friend for 8.5 years. Truly through thick and thin. She has had the habit of choosing the absolute most terrible guys to date, im talking the who's who of human trash. A mounth ago she partially moved to a different city for work (a week and a half over there and a few days in here). When she got there she met cam, he is a 38 year old guy who works with her all the time. The work they do is 24/7 so they spend a lot of time together mostly getting high. After a week or two cam started flirting with marry and she started to want him too, she told me she is only looking for something s@xuall and for someone to do dr@gs with. I told her from the beginning that a 38 year old shouldn't be flirting and doing dr@gs with 22 years old, in my opinion it's creepy and predatory, she said that she really likes him and trust him. I kept my silence after that but a week ago she told me that cam offered her to rent an airbnb in a different 3rd city (300 km from our town) to do a dr@g that she had never tried before and to also have s@x. I told her that "going to a city you don't know with a guy you barely know who's 16 years older then you and doing a dr@g you don't know how your body will react to" is the worst idea I've ever heard. She said that i am probably right but she really wants to do it anyway. A week past and they already did their airbnb plans and nothing bad happened thank god but i still Don't trust cam and so i wanted to check him on the internet, to see if he has anything that he did in the past that would put marry in danger.when i asked my friends for cam's full name and told them about my plans they told me that i am overacting and that "its normal for a 38 year old guy to flirt and do dr@gs with a 22 year old women" and that "i should trust that marry has a good judgement about her life". My counter points to that are that a 38 year old guy shouldn't be doing dr@gs and sleeping with 22 year old as he is probably using her for s@x and the moment she decides she doesn't want to have s@x anymore he wouldn't care and do the worst to her. My other counter point is that marry had shown that she has no good judgement about guys in the past (im talking over 15 terrible guys she has dated) and that as friends it is our responsibility to help protect her when she is possibly with life threatening people.
I am legit asking you guys what yall think i should do, leave them alone or double down on my disapproval.
Anyway i would appreciate your opinion a lot. Thanks