Partner’s sibling wants to back out of trip 3 weeks away
TLDR: partners sibling has nonrefundable tickets and flights and is willing to just take the L over her travel anxiety.
Looking for advice as I want them to come with still. Also, everything is already all planned and paid for and they’ve already bought their flights (non-refundable too after all of us advising otherwise🤦♂️).
My partner’s family has been planning this trip to Europe for everyone (9 of us originally, down to a potential 4 now lol) for the past like 18 months and has generously offered to pay for all accommodations and meals. We just had to get there. They’ve even rebooked our accommodations a couple times to reduce the space we’d need as other people slowly dropped out since this past Christmas.
Until now, her sibling coming has been gung-ho and super excited about the trip as she’s the only one who followed through with buying her stuff, along with us. However, this week, she drops on us out of no where that she’s not going to come and to just tell us what she owes us for other tickets and passes we’ve bought for things to do while there… she is 100% willing to just flush all the money down the toilet. We’re talking well over $2,000. Sib says they’re feeling anxious about going and apparently recently had a fight with their dad, so doesn’t feel like talking to him right now (frankly, some petty bs).
I know it’s not my problem and people are going to do what they want to anyway, but she’s already expressed regretting things in the past. We both really enjoy spending time with her as she’s about 9-10 hours from us and I know my partner was really looking forward to having that quality time and making memories together for a couple weeks. We’ve tried talking to her and being reassuring, but it seems like she’s just shutting down.
Any advice on what to say or do or try to help alleviate the anxiety? I just feel like she is making these decision irrationally. I was even going to bring up helping to pay for anything if it’s a stress about the finances. We’re just stuck, so plz other Reddit travel enthusiasts, HELP!!