My poor boyfriend
I have the usual triggers, tea/coffee slurping, yawning, lip smacking, crunchy foods, and some other sensory issues as well (getting fingers/finger nails touched, repeated stroking, smells, sounds...).
I didn't notice this about my boyfriend when we first met, but these days, it is a torture to have a meal with him. I don't see a future between us for this reason, otherwise he is a wonderful human who is patient, generous, and loving. I have lost all sexual desires. Every slurp erodes the love I have for him little bit at a time.
I had to ask him the other day, at this point I had already walked away from dining table because he was slurping his coffee but he followed me and sat next to me, "is your coffee still hot?" He said "No, why?" And I said "because you are drinking it like it is still hot"
He got mad that I ruined his peaceful moment in the morning. What about my peaceful moment? Why is it his right to make noise come before my right for silence?
Why is asking for basic manners considered mean? No lip smacking, no slurping... If it is too hot, don't drink it or blow lightly? I also hate the sound people make as they drink out of a cup or a water bottle, a bit of air inhaling in anticipation of the incoming water. Why, why, are we toddlers learning to drink out of a cup still??
We talked about moving in together. I may have been okay early on in the relationship when I hadn't caught onto it all, but I couldn't move in with him or marry him for that matter. I couldn't sign myself up for a life long torture 😰
I am currently on day seven of an eight day vacation with him. I have gradually lost all my appetite. I got zero breaks this week, every meal is together, he is constantly yawning in the hotel room with the extra yawing noise that is a add on beyond just some natural sound 😰
I don't think i am meant to live with someone 😵💫