ESTJ + INTJ
My fiancée and I are about to get married. She is having to leave her Job and relocate to be with me. (We were doing long distance) Because she was on a work visa she cannot find another job until the whole process is over. She is having a hard time giving up the job. She is looking for options but the only one would require significant travel and time apart. I explained we will be fine if she does not work. But she mentioned that she feels like she had a plan and wanted to be someone important and travel and do all these things and now her plan has changed. She wants to be with me but is stressed about the money and quitting, especially in this economy. I have tried to comfort her and show her we will be okay financially but she is still having a hard time. I often feel like we are opposites. She wants to be a director and be rich. And I feel like I am a little more grounded and dont need to prove my value or worth to someone. I dont need to be rich, I am not doing bad, but I just dont care about money. How do I help her, or are we really just driven in two different directions for goals? And what questions could I ask to help navigate what shes feeling?