u/WithA_Bit_Of_Dazzle

Here to vent because I can’t voice this out loud in my home. HCBM moved across the country, left SS age 7, we were granted full custody. SS is on the spectrum and has been regressing/ having low self esteem due to the fact that HCBM took SS’s younger half sibling. This has made SS think that half sibling is the “favorite” and he has been showing a lot of emotion. Well HCBM has a social media business/platform and has continued to tell her clients/followers that she still has SS. Even made AI family photos of them traveling across the country during her move. Today she announced to her clients that she can’t fulfill their current orders due to lack of funds because she has to support and feed her kids. She hasn’t sent a dime our way, she wants to pay for her lifestyle and live the high life but not work hard for it. She moved out of pure selfishness. She profits off SS and his disability. It’s disgusting and the fact that she’s telling her followers that she still has her son in her custody is beyond sick and shameful. I work a job, go to law school, and am the caregiver for SS while she lives her best life across the country rent free with her mom. Just want to scream at how gross this woman is.

Hi everyone, I need to vent because if I don’t it’s going to fester inside me. So SS is under the age of 10, on the spectrum and I’m the one who has worked with him for the last 4 years on his speech, education, and daily life skills to get him to where he is now. Top of his class, potentially going into general education, from nonverbal to verbal, it’s been a very long journey and process but DH and I have put a lot of time into making sure SS has everything he needs to succeed. We have kept everything consistent for SS, same home, same school, no major changes on our end. We fought for majority custody, BM had a low rent home in our county, (this was her 3rd move in 3 years) has her own online business (hadn’t held a 9-5 longer than a year) and was making enough money to cover bills and essential. DH knew this because every other week she would get mani/pedi when we had SS, was buying unnecessary expenses for herself, and even spent $380 on a ballon arch for her other child, SS half sibling. BM has now chosen to move across the country for a “fresh start” and has had to leave SS here due to her not having majority custody. When the judge asked her why she was leaving she just tiptoed around the question and said “personal reasons,” instead of saying she was just dumped and has no one left here. So when DH started getting messages from their mutual friends asking “hey did you lose custody of your son?” We were confused. She’s been making AI generated photos of her “journey” across the country making the claim that SS is with her! I know this is stupid to be upset about because clearly SS is here with us, but these photos are on her business page where she’s playing the “single mom of two” card and people are buying into it and i literally mean buying into it. She doesn’t even refer to SS as “my son” she calls him “my autistic nonverbal son” on everything. It’s so gross and weird. SS has regressed so much due to this change because he doesn’t understand why she left with his half sibling. It breaks my heart to see him so upset and betrayed. I just don’t understand how a mother could be this selfish and leave their child for them to have a fresh start, rather than just being a parent and an adult for their child’s sake.