Found out I'm an NPE. My bio dad had no idea I existed.
Hey everyone,
I'm writing this because I am currently in a deep limbo of grief, navigating through a massive identity shock, and trying to figure out how to process it all. I feel like I'm standing in front of a completely blank canvas—expected to color it myself, but I don't even know where to begin because I don't know who I am anymore. I had an entire culture that wasn't mine build me and shape me, even though growing up, I always intuitively felt like something was off or different. About almost a year ago, I took an Ancestry test that revealed I was, in fact, not Hispanic like I was told. What actually pushed me to take the test was remembering that one of my dad's brothers had already done an Ancestry test. I knew that if we matched, everything would be fine. But once I got my results back, I saw that we didn't match at all. That was the exact moment I realized my dad wasn't my biological dad. Instead, I saw that I was matching with my biological father's family, including my half-aunt and half-uncle. I spoke to my mother's sisters, and they told me everything. I was completely devastated, and to this day I still am. Everyone but my mother knows about what I discovered. I still have a good relationship with my father, who raised me, but I really am just seeking advice or tools I can use to help me heal or set me in the right direction.