Perimenopause and Bipolar
Any other husbands or wives dealing with bipolar and perimenopause? She’s getting close to the 12 months without a period (yeah, I know 12 months is just number they use to declare menopause), she’s got 7 months down, but the last two years have been absolute hell on her, and myself, first signs of peri started about 9 years ago. I finally was able to convince her about three weeks ago that she should try HRT, I had to schedule the appointment, and she’s been on progesterone and estrogen for about two weeks. Last Saturday, she came out with the “I love you, but I’m not in love with you, and I think we should separate.” The next day after church, she’s breaking down in tears, “I don’t want to separate, I don’t want to leave you, the kids, our home, but I don’t know what our future holds.” Another blow up two nights ago about feeling trapped, and she can’t make decisions because she can’t think straight, and I should decide if we separate. I simply told her I wouldn’t beg her to stay, that I wouldn’t fight with her, but I would fight for us, and I would advocate for her and support her (conversation started at 10:00 pm and ended at 5:00 am). I spent all day yesterday talking to different psychiatric offices that work with bipolar, women’s health, and life transitions, neither one of us feels like she’s being medicated correctly for her bipolar while she’s in the throes of peri. I Brought home all of the information, and she didn’t even want to look at it, just told me to text it to her. She said she was just tired of talking about it all right now, and didn’t want to be worried with it. I know I overthink too much, especially right now, and it’s driving me crazy, not so much that I’m worried about divorce, but I’m truly worried about her mental health. So, anyone else found themselves going through peri and living with bipolar at the same time?