u/WolffTaylor

So I've been noticing a pattern for a while now and I genuinely can't figure out if I'm overthinking this or if there's actually something to it. For context Not to brag but I'm a fairly handsome guy (I know this and so does every other attractive guy/girl if anybody tells you otherwise they're lying) and I've started picking up on something that happens way too consistently to be a coincidence.

Today for example. I'm waiting for the elevator, the doors open, there's a group of girls inside clearly mid-conversation because I could hear them going at it before the doors even parted. The moment the doors opened, I made eye contact with one of them. Not a glance actual eye contact, maybe 3 or 4 seconds. I step in. Dead silence. Not a word. She spent the entire ride staring at the floor like it owed her money.

And this isn't a one time thing. For instance when walking down the street, if a girl is coming from the opposite direction and we're about to pass each other, nine times out of ten she looks down right before we cross paths. Not after. Before. Like she clocked me from a distance and made a decision.

This is super confusing because most of the time I'm super interested in the girl as well but I can't make a move because I can't decode what on earth this behaviour actually means. Another example would be for instance in a social setting girls will sneak a look when they think you're not watching and you catch it then they immediately look away pretend like they are not interested at all.

So girls, genuine question — what is actually going on in those moments? Is it shyness? Is it Sri Lankan cultural conditioning? Or is it that all of these girls that I come across are shy and introverted and all the others are on the other side of the planet? I'm not judging at all, I'm just trying to understand because from the outside it genuinely looks like interest and avoidance happening at the same time and I can't tell which one is winning.

Would love honest answers. What's actually going through your head?

Lowkey posting this because I feel like I'm not the only one in this situation.

I'm 25 M, never been in a relationship — not because I couldn't, but because I made a decision early on that if I'm getting into something, it's serious, it's halal, and it's heading somewhere. Marriage basically.

The problem? It's genuinely hard to meet Muslim women in my day to day. I work at a big tech company, huge workforce, and Muslim girls are rare. The only time I'm actually around women I'd genuinely want to get to know is like... Eid shopping 😂. And obviously you can't just walk up to someone who's with their family — that's just not it (at least in mho).

So I'm curious — do Muslim girls ever experience the same thing from their side? Like you see someone and think "I'd actually talk to him" but the moment just passes?

Because I feel like there are a lot of us who are serious about marriage but just can't find the right way to connect.

25M, planning on getting married in the next year or two. If anything I said resonated, my DMs are open.