AITBA for telling my nice friend's boyfriend that she cheated kn him more than once?
Today, I confessed to my nice friend that I told her boyfriend about her messy dating life and it did not end well.
We've been together since tenth grade because she used to get bullied about her male-centered behaviour, despite her questionable decisions she's quite nice I admit if not the best. Back then I approached her wishing she'd have a change of ways once we'd get to know each other, since it was really sad to see her outcasted by other female classmates. Five years later now I realized why she was never favoured by my other classmates.
She had never been a good friend to me she was just nice for the sake of our history. She only ever approached me when she had issues with her boyfriends. Inspite of never taking much interest in my conversations or problems, we stayed together so as to not get lonely and it was fun. During our high school, she started lying to the teachers extensively by using my name and ditched important classes to spend time with her boyfriend in the spare classroom which led me in detention many times. Upon being confronted, she took it lightly and asked me to "learn to do favours for her as a friend". She also always tended to romanticize her sexual assault and kept in touch with her abuser. She glorified any basic male interaction, flirted with boys who slutshamed her and never set boundaries with anyone which later led to a much grave predicament.
During our senior year, because of her lack of boundaries a christian boy happened to caress her butt during the recess. Miraculously, she decided to report it to the class teacher that very day which was very unlikely of her and I was really proud of her for doing so. I was also aware of her reputation and perception that the faculty held of her which couldn't help her much in this case yet I was determined to help her. The report ended up backfiring on her and the missionary administration pleaded the boy not guilty. Later she severed ties with the boy and started showing real change or as I was hoping it to be.
Over the whole discourse I gave her the benefit of the doubt of her vulnerability and gave her a second chance to be better and to not decenter boys that would ruin her life once again. I also insisted her to focus on her career and seek betterment for herself.
A year later, she continued using my name as a bait and had affairs with different boys. Today, I decided to cut her off and told her boyfriend about it. Her boyfriend is just as shitty as she is. A misogynist with a cheating history. I've always known they'd make me the bait for their own faults and direct their accountability, regardless of that, I gathered the courage to do so. I've never had any ill intention or any grievance towards them I just want peace from this emotional dilemma I've been caught up on. I took the messenger's fall lol. I advised her, wanted better for her but in vain she's now angry at me that WHY i let her shitty boyfriend know about her shitty actions.