Fear he’ll change for someone new
I broke up with him almost 6 months ago. (History) Spent a little over 3 years together (f24 now, m30). After a few months the lack of intimacy started. After a year and a half, he finally admitted to porn being the issue. The next years were promising to stop, lying about having stopped for a couple of months, then him finally admitting it again. It took a long time for me to get to the point of breaking up for good, I’m sure some of you understand. Letting go of the promises and the good parts, despite the lies and betrayal, is so so hard. I’m posting now because about 3 months after we broke up he got a new girlfriend and moved in with her. I guess since its almost at 6 months now, I’ve healed a lot from the breakup and have moved forward in a low of ways. One thing keeping me stuck though is the idea that if I had stayed again, this time maybe he would’ve changed. Or even more, that now that he is with someone new he will change for her. That she will get what I fought and tried and hurt so bad for years for. And I think also that after all of the pain and hurt that he caused, that I spend my nights trying to heal from what he did and he gets to be fine and happy and with someone new, with no consequences. I guess I’m wondering if there’s anyone else who has been in this situation or has advice? I know that some of this is ego and pain driven, but I’m wondering how to move forward from these feelings. Thank you!