Mother wants to move in with us
I (30F) have been married to my husband for 7 years. In all this time, my mom has never met him or even spoken to him; she has just never cared about my life at all.
Out of nowhere, I recently got a call from her asking if she could move in with us. Because her English is very limited, I had to translate the conversation back and forth between her and my husband.
Everything I translated was completely polite and non-offensive. But when I told her that my husband and I needed to discuss it first, she suddenly lost it. She yelled, "That's it! Why did I even ask you? You are so ungrateful! Why do you need to ask your husband when I am your mom? You should take care of me since you owe me!" Then, she slammed the phone down on me.
I don’t see how I did anything wrong. It is our house. Consulting my husband on a massive life change like this isn't optional—it's just basic respect for my marriage. It is so incredibly frustrating and exhausting to communicate with traditional Asian parents who expect blind obedience, especially when they haven't bothered to be a part of your life for years.