u/Woodless_Guy55

I'm 25 afab. I started having attacks around 1 year ago. This all ordeal happened in South Italy.
My mental state is not exactly flourishing so my mother takes care of me as things are now. She's extremely anti vax and against surgeries so last year when our doctor told her I needed my gallbladder removed she immediately decided she didn't want to indulge.
She tried to get me a second opinion and it was all the same so we ended up ignoring the issue entirely.

Some months ago I went to the ER because of some attacks (I was passing stones) and she got quite a scare and decided it was time to do the surgery. We did the pre-hospitalisation iter but I ended up at the ER 2 days after it and they hospitalised me.

I've been hospitalised for 15 days, nothing occurred. I was in constant pain after eating, they told me they couldn't do anything but give me paracetamol which more often than not did absolutely nothing to me. My mom complained with the stuff and got me a RMI, thy ignored it until I went into the operation room, when they realised I had stones inside my ducts they sent me home because they couldn't do the surgery anymore. My surgeon #1 plan was to get me to come back in a week to get me transferred to another hospital to do the ERCP and then do the surgery two days after, useless to say it didn't go this way.

I came back at the hospital as told, got transferred to the other hospital, got the ERCP and... it went bad. The line they used broke inside my liver and they managed to get out of me 15 stones. I had to get permanently transferred to this new hospital, where I stayed for a day with a naso-biliary tube and got repeatedly scolded for throwing up with it. I had to get another ERCP to remove the little line that got stuck but they couldn't do it and my surgeon #1 called out the surgery all together after it, lying about my condition. He said I had pancreatitis, but it wasn't true and the doctors at the hospital told me I didn't, he said it was because of anaesthesia, but the doctors also said it wasn't true. I got sent home because no one wanted to do the cholecystectomy.

I've been told I had to wait a full month "just to be sure" but I was scared and the fact he wasn't being honest sent me in a panic spiral so we went for a second opinion. Surgeon #2 said he wouldn't have done the surgery until October, which obviously was a no no, but he also said surgeon #1 did good not to do the surgery so I calmed down for around 10 days.

My mom's however wanted to get another opinion, so we went to surgeon #3. He checked what happened with the ERCPs, he saw that they prescribed me 5 units of ursodeoxycholic acid 300 mg a day and got worried. He visited me, everything was fine, he told me to get a RMI and blood tests which we scheduled immediately and he also told us Surgeon #1 was going on a calling spree to avoid ANYONE to operate on me. He was also confused on why I didn't get immediate cholecystectomy after the ERCPs.

When I got home I ate (Turkey) and I god a horrible attack that got me to the ER, they didn't want to do blood tests and only gave me Toradol and sent us away, the pain didn't stop, it got just slightly better to the point I could sleep until 4 am, when I woke up in pain again, I didn't want to wake up my mom so I took Paracetamol 1000 mg, it went a little better and I went to sleep just to wake up again in pain. I went to the ER again and they again just gave me Toradol and sent me away without any kind of assessment. As things are now, after two days (so three days now) I still have an active gallbladder attack to the point where I cannot stand, walk or even slightly touch my abdomen, I'm not jaundice nor I have a fever.

I'm sorry if I'm writing in a messy and confused way but the pain is unbearable and I genuinely have no idea what to do at this point.

TL;DR: I have an ongoing gallbladder attack since three days, no amount of painkiller or paracetamol is making it stop and the ER is not an option.

I’m a 25 year old (T) guy. I’ve been in a hospital for unrelated issues for the past 3 days. While I was there the guy I had a “situationship” with told me the most triggering and hurtful thing a person could say to me, which I don’t want to repeat, so we decided things just weren’t meant to work out and we “stayed friends”, which just means cutting ties gradually.

I don’t have friends because I’m not that social and the one I had got cut for a reason or the other. I felt like I couldn’t talk to anyone and I had an argument with my family as the cherry on top.

I decided to talk with my “ex crush”? That one person I would deglove myself for. We still do that occasionally, monosyllables.
“I’m at the hospital”
“Good luck”
“Have to get surgery”
“Hope it’s no biggie”
This is the most we talked in MONTHS, and I felt like he was the most responsible person I had close. However tonight I started opening up, I was basically crying and I felt extremely embarrassed for being this sad over some stupid family argument. He knew I love him dearly and we started talking about one of my ex friend that he had a crush on, she’s married now and cut everyone off. The conversation turned sexual and my brain completely fogged. I can barely remember what I wrote and did. When I came to my senses I reread our chat around 3-4 times and he waved the reddest flag I could have ever imagined and yet I went on sending him nudes and I did whatever he asked me for a couple hours. I even got caught by a nurse.

I feel terrible and I’m aware it’s all my fault. It could have been easily avoided, he also asked me if I was sure and it was a hundred percent wanted but the fact my brain just turned off like that scared me. While it was happening I was making up a story in my head that was different from what he was even talking about and I’m almost sure it will happen again because I’m incapable to cut ties with people I love that much.