u/Working_Board2059

Trying to get a realistic read on whether appealing a Hinge ban is worth the effort right now, and the threads I’m finding are mostly a year or two old.

My situation: I was banned back in 2022. The original report came from an ex, and the context on my end was that it wasn’t a good-faith report. I got a new device in 2025 and successfully got back on Hinge…for a month…as the same ex actually revenge reported me…again. A year has since passed and I’d like to get back on the platform - Hinge is genuinely the best app for what I’m looking for in NYC. I also have the fortune of having a new device as I lost my phone over new years.

What I’m trying to figure out: I’ve seen mentions of Hinge shifting toward more proportionate enforcement under newer leadership, and some posts suggesting appeals actually get human review now rather than a form rejection. But I can’t tell if that’s real or just hopeful noise.

So, recent anecdotes specifically: Has anyone successfully appealed a Hinge ban in the last 6 months? How long did it take, did it feel like a real person reviewed it, and did the original ban reason matter?

If it’s the same old broken process, I am probably better off using a new number, photos, etc.

But it would be so nice if someone at the company could actually review my case.

Appreciate any honest experiences, good or bad.

Started a new job today at an office in an old converted industrial building in Union Square, NYC (860 Broadway - exposed brick, original construction, no visible air purification). Within a few hours I was clearly sensitive - sinus stuff, feeling off. Stepped outside for a quick walk and felt noticeably better almost immediately.

Context on me: I’ve been in active treatment for mold for about a month with a doctor. Confirmed mycotoxin exposure on testing. Current protocol includes binders, itraconazole nasal spray, sauna, epsom salt baths, exercise, and clean eating. Levels have been trending in the right direction and I want to keep it that way.

The job is one I worked hard to get and genuinely want. But it’s 6 hours/day minimum in this space, and I’m worried sustained exposure could stall or reverse the progress I’ve made. The company is planning to move to a new office later this year, and there’s some remote flexibility - but leaning on remote heavily this early would meaningfully hurt my career trajectory here.

Looking for practical advice and perspective from anyone who has navigated a similar situation - balancing active treatment with a workplace exposure you can’t fully control, especially early in a new role. Open to all angles - mitigation, testing, how you talked to your employer, when you decided to push through vs. make a bigger call

Quick context: I’m two years out of a top university, where I competed at the junior national level in my sport and treated academics the same way. Growing up, I put the full weight of myself behind everything I did. The last couple years I’ve dealt with health issues (Lyme) and immediate family losses that slowed me down considerably and forced me to rethink a lot.

Next week I start a BizOps role at a Series C fintech - $130k base plus RSUs. Good job by most measures. But if I am being honest with myself, I am not that thrilled about it. I’m not particularly passionate about most of what’s happening in tech - I think we’ve lost the plot prioritizing innovation for profit over actual human welfare. Grinding in corporate america feels pointless after experiencing the love, grief, and travel I have in the past few years.

What I want is a simple life and to figure out how to be happy again. The problem is the cheapest version of that has never felt more expensive, and competing for it without family money is brutal. My current plan is to give this job my full effort with an open mind and reassess at the end of the year - possibly heading to SE Asia to work remotely and think.

The question I keep getting stuck on:

Is it worth being “all in” on a job that, even at its best, won’t ever be life-changing money? Corporate salaries are real, but they’re chump change compared to what wealthy people make passively doing nothing. If not all in, where should that energy actually go - side projects, relationships, health, something else?

Especially want to hear from former high achievers who’ve reckoned with this. How did you decide where to point that intensity once you stopped aiming it at the ladder?