r/SwipeHelper

I’m a 38-year-old woman, and I recently had one of the most disturbing dating experiences of my life.
I matched with a man on Hinge whose profile said he was 45. During our first date, he admitted he was actually 51. He apologized, acknowledged that he had lied about his age, and asked me to give him a chance to earn my trust.
I decided to give him that chance.
Over the next ten days, we went on dates, went hiking, became intimate, and communicated frequently. He was extremely affectionate, constantly expressed his interest, and made plans to see me again.
Then, after a day of affectionate messages, he suddenly stopped communicating.
Two days later, he sent me a shocking message accusing me of repeatedly slapping and pinching his face during our dates.
I was completely stunned. I categorically deny these accusations. I never did anything remotely like what he described.
I told him I had no idea what he was talking about, respected his decision to end things, and blocked him.
Around the same time, my Hinge account was banned. I submitted an appeal, but Hinge upheld its decision and permanently banned me. I also lost access to other Match Group dating apps, including Tinder and OkCupid.
To make matters worse, my account on The League, which I had maintained for approximately five or six years, was also removed.
I suspect this man may have submitted false reports against me, although I have no confirmation that he reported me or caused the bans.
I contacted the dating platforms but received no meaningful explanation of the alleged violations. I also contacted local police, who told me they considered it a relationship matter and suggested seeking a protective order if appropriate.
I have now submitted a complaint to the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) to document my concerns.
What frightens me most is that this man knows where I live and could potentially find where I work. After receiving accusations about events I say never happened, I feel deeply unsettled about what else might happen.
I understand that dating platforms must take safety reports seriously. But what protections exist for users who believe they have been falsely accused? How can someone defend themselves when the platform won’t explain the allegations or provide an opportunity to respond?
Has anyone experienced a similar situation involving alleged false reports, permanent bans across Match Group apps, or unsuccessful appeals?
Were you ever able to get your account reinstated or obtain a meaningful review?
I would genuinely appreciate hearing about your experiences and any practical advice.

Hi, I got on Tinder for the very first time 2 years ago and ended up with around 160 likes and over 50 matches in a span of like 9 days, since then I got off the app while also managing to getting banned.

After 2 years I wanted to comeback so I used my laptop to create an account with a paid eSim number and everything went smoothly, what I've noticed tho is that it's been 3 days now and I'm on 20 likes + 10-15 matches. They are pretty high quality matches and likes from what I see but the numbers are so low. I turned on the 30 min boost and gotten 2 likes. It's like my account isn't distributed properly or maybe it's got to do with not being verified/creating account very late at night (4 am) and dropping elo instantly, I got no idea. Any thoughts on that?

I, like many others, found myself suddenly banned for what seemed, no reason. I did the in app appeal, never heard back. Made other hinge accounts and work around, they’d get banned shortly. Gave up for a bit, decided to lookup the process others had don’t.
What I did, send email to hinge support, got email to do the in app process. Proceeded to email back and forth trying to explain I already did and just says that they received the appeal. Few emails back and forth asking how to get it back, asked me to do ID verification. Did that and voila, success! Try your luck, might just work. From banned to access restored was 2 hours on a Saturday. No bad!

Accidentally swiped right on my cousin on Bumble. My spotlight was on, and I was trying my luck on everyone that comes in (ladies, guys dont get as many). Has anybody been on this embarassing situation?

On these dating apps, women can filter out men who are short, arent educated and even how much they make in some cases but as men we cannot filter out fat women or even trans women. No shade or hate to trans women or the community but if I put down I am straight and want to date women I should not have to see trans women or other men in my feed. Why is there no way to stop this?

Edit: seems like a lot of guys know exactly what I am saying. Its not that we are "transphobic" or hate men in wigs, if men want to wear wigs thats fine but when I select women only on these apps I dont think men with wigs should be in the women category they should have their own section for the tiny 0.001% of guys that are into men in wigs.

Also, a lot of people wont believe this but there is a connection between LGBT and big pharma, they make it so you see trans on these apps because big pharma works with Match Group to allow men in wigs there so they can slowly lure you into being their slave for life. I cannnot tell you the full lure because big pharma, Match Group and Reddit are close friends and I will get banned but if enough people upvote this post I might say it.

Edit2: to everyone saying "oh if you see a hot trans woman you might like her" you what you call luring someone into something that they 100% do not want to be involved in? That's called grooming and when they are lured into sex with a man in a wig thats called rape. Its not cool to egg a group of people into something that they 100% dont want to be in just because "they might like it" mega creepy rapy line.

Don't go here asking for advice about your looks, or photos. Have some pride! You're opening yourself to judgement from people who look way worse than you, and have way worse photos. They are specialists in nothing but talking SHIT. Be yourself! If your profile is far from ideal then so what? It's YOU. Someone might like you just THE WAY YOU ARE, not the way you PRETEND to be.
Bragging about matches and dates is also terrible. This is none of people's business. Also people are LIARS.
Also, most of y'all just borderline superficial bastards, looks is all to you.
This is my first and only post here, and no, I won't tell how many dates I get, it's PRIVATE.