u/Working_School_7189

im a little new to dating again right after ending an 8 year long ltr (25m), and i started seeing this girl (25f) i met way back in high school. we already knew each other and somewhat our hobbies and interests. it was going great, first date was a 12 hour trip and coffee / lunch dates, and everything was somehow natural in between us even though we just recently reconnected. 2nd date was again great, we had dinner and coffee. and so was the 3rd one. dates were full of laughter, catching up and talking deeply about what our plans are in life. i opened up exclusivity during the 3rd date but since our date was going so well, our talk got sidetracked to something else. but during that night, she hinted that she doesn’t want to see other people while dating me. it still felt like something was missing to be clarified in between us cause she told me after our 1st date that she currently didnt see me as someone who has a real chance romantically with her.

i knew the risks and that our friendship would probably be over if she rejected me. but i also didnt want to hang out too much with her and get led on and just get hurt or be an option at the end. the reason i wanted to ask for clarity is because it felt like shes giving me mixed signals. it felt confusing trying to ask her personal questions or how she felt about us. she started caring more about me and started showing a side of her i didnt know of.

but when it came to our last call, i started asking her if her point still stands… if she still didnt see if i have real chance romantically with her. she didnt answer back so i started overthinking and asking her other questions she might be comfortable with. still, i didnt get a concrete answer from her up until i straight away told her that probably “youll always see me as a friend” and she said “maybe thats it” but the confusing part is, why she ended up saying that at the very end of a 2 hour call. it was mostly silence and me waiting for her to answer my questions.

how do i get over this kind of thing?? it sucks trying to overthink what went wrong or if i did anything wrong. its been only a month since we started talking again but im very specific when it comes to intentions and clarity so thats why i asked her when it felt confusing for me already.