u/Worldclass2023

I had no intention of meeting someone or getting into a relationship, but I met my boyfriend unexpectedly and ended up falling in love. My actual goal was to move out of my current city either to Europe or somewhere warmer in the US.
From the very beginning, on our first date, I was clear with him that I didn’t like living in my current city and that I wanted to move out soon. He agreed and said he would be open to moving. We also talked about finances, and since he makes significantly more money than I do, he agreed that he would take on more of the financial responsibility in the household.

Now fast forward—we’ve moved in together and split expenses based on our income ratio. However, lately I feel like he’s no longer interested in moving out of this town. Every time I bring it up, he either ignores it or avoids the conversation.

Another big thing for me is traveling. I love exploring new places, and since I met him, I’ve only traveled once because he’s usually too busy with work. It’s starting to feel frustrating because even when he has opportunities, like having a whole month off in January, he still doesn’t seem interested in making travel plans.

I’m starting to feel like he prioritizes things based on his own interests, while the things that matter to me—especially traveling and moving—get pushed aside or ignored. Part of me wonders if this is because he’s contributing more financially than me but at the same time, these were things he agreed to from the beginning. Now I’m left feeling confused and unsure whether my expectations were unrealistic or if he’s changed his mind over time. I don’t know who to blame—I just know I feel unheard and disappointed.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, and emotionally our relationship is very strong. We genuinely love and care for each other, and he treats me well. The problem is that I’ve struggled with physical and sexual attraction to him from the beginning.
He is very attracted to me and enjoys our sex life, but I often feel sexually unfulfilled. I chose him because of his personality and the connection we share emotionally, hoping that physical attraction might grow over time. But after a year together, those feelings still haven’t really developed for me.

Lately, I’ve been thinking about other men and worrying about what that means. I would never want to cheat on him or hurt him, but I’m scared that staying in a relationship where I feel physically disconnected could eventually lead to resentment or temptation. At the same time, he is not open to an open relationship, so the only real alternative would be ending the relationship entirely.

What makes this so difficult is that I truly do love him and don’t want to lose him. I’m also afraid of making a mistake by leaving someone who cares about me deeply just because something physical feels missing. I keep wondering whether attraction can grow with time, or whether I’m forcing something that simply isn’t there.

I feel torn between emotional love and physical compatibility, and I don’t know whether staying is the right thing or whether ending it would ultimately be kinder for both of us.