The Long Game
Last night, went out to my club of preference. At this point, I kinda know the lay of the land and what is going on. I had been texting with my CF and we had accorded to do a 30 min VIP that night. I was excited because in our last encounter she had actually allowed me a lot of mileage in our lap dances; on top of it, we did 7 songs and she only charged me for 3.
I arrive, and wait about 40 minutes before she shows up. She has drinks with me, and we are discussing daily life and what not. About an hour and a half later she gets called to do her set. I tip over $100 in ones. She comes back has another drink with me and we go get VIP.
Unfortunately all the spaces were being used (should’ve taken that as a sign) and we just decided to do 30 minutes in the semi-private rooms.
She did allow me to do some of the things we had done the first time but ultimately (gently) told me she needed more time before she’d let me keep touching on her, that she only wanted to cuddle, and she ended the dance early (about 7 minutes). I still tipped her and she told me she had a lovely time, that she loved that I wasn’t pushy and loved I was so patient with her, and that she hoped to see me again soon.
I felt rejected even though I don’t think I made her feel uncomfortable (I’m not very pushy and I always ask permission) my mistake was in assuming that because she had allowed something before it was ok to do it again. I get a feeling this is a strategy to get me to go see her more often so I can chase the feeling of the first dance, but if that was true, then it failed. It was crazy because when the 30 minutes started she started talking about going out for a drink and when I brought up OTC (pay for her time + dinner, no extras) she told she’d rather keep seeing me in the club. I think I will have to keep experimenting with different dancers before locking down a favorite. I was pissed off when I left because of the dance duration and her changing her mind in the middle of it, but I didn’t show it and see it now as a lesson learned. Thoughts? Advice?