u/Worried_Poetry4278

been sitting with this one for a while. i manage procurement projects remotely and pretty regularly find myself in this weird dual role where i'm the pm coordinating everything but also the person doing a chunk of the actual procurement work. scope reviews, vendor communication, tracking deliverables, all landing on the same person.

the separation of duties thing that gets talked about in textbooks basically dissolves. i catch myself switching between pm brain and specialist brain midmeeting and it gets messy.

what i started doing is building out a separate tracker just for my own task load versus the projectwide tracker. keeps me from confusing my personal deadlines with the broader milestone view. it helps but it still feels like a structural problem more than a tooling problem.

curious if others deal with this, especially in smaller orgs or remote setups where there isn't always a clean line between the pm and the doer. does the role just kind of blur permanently or did you find a way to actually draw that boundary.

Planning my wedding while working as a remote PM has broken my brain a little. Not in a bad way, just in a way where I keep catching myself applying the same frameworks I use at work to something that's supposed to feel meaningful and personal, then wondering if that makes it worse or better.

I built a procurement tracker for vendor comparisons. I have a risk log for the catering situation. I scheduled standupstyle checkins with my partner. Somewhere around week three I realized I was treating it exactly like a client project, which is either the smartest thing I've ever done or a warning sign.

The thing that keeps nagging at me is that at work, emotional detachment is usually an asset. You can push back on scope creep, cut a vendor, reprioritize without it hurting. But when you're managing something you actually care about, the PM instincts and the personal stakes kind of fight each other.

Curious if anyone here has managed a project where they were not just the PM but also a real stakeholder in the result. Internal product launches, home renovations, anything where the professional and personal overlap. How did you keep the structure useful without it making everything feel transactional?

trying to figure out logistics for some wedding planning and it keeps circling back to sourcing things locally and im kind of obsessed with the idea of keeping it all close to home. we go to the farmers market on saturdays pretty regularly and ive noticed a few vendors that do flowers and dried botanicals but i never know if they do anything at scale or for events.

wondering if anyone has actually reached out to a grower or small farm in the area for something like wedding florals or even local honey favors and what that experience was like. im the kind of person who will build a whole spreadsheet before making one phone call so any actual names or stalls at the market that people have worked with would be genuinely helpful.

also curious if the coralville or north liberty farmers markets have different vendors than the ped mall one, like whether its worth hitting multiple in a weekend or if theres a lot of overlap. feel like this is the kind of thing locals would actually know and google is pretty useless for it.Alt titles: does anyone know iowa city farmers market vendors who do wedding flowers | local farms near iowa city for event sourcing anyone tried this | farmers market vendor recs for wedding planning iowa city area

I'm starting to plan an outdoor wedding for next summer and I'd like to keep as much of it local as I can. I go to the Saturday farmers market pretty often and I've noticed a few flower and plant vendors, but I've never asked whether any of them take wedding orders or do larger arrangements.

The wedding will be pretty small, around 60 people, so I don't need anything huge. I'd just rather work with someone local if possible instead of one of the bigger wedding vendors.

If you've used a local grower or florist around Iowa City or Coralville, I'd love to hear who you'd recommend. Farms outside town are fair game too if they're willing to do wedding flowers.