My co-parent is dedicated to making my life miserable
Not sure where to start. I 32F have a 4 year old with my ex 38M. We were never married. We had our child 4years into knowing each other, during that 4 years we dated but not consecutively. I broke up with him when I was about 6mo pregnant. He was rasing his voice and cussing at me and I knew I didnt want to my child to witness that ever. Or worse, to normalize that behavior to my child.
We continued to “work together” until our child was born (mostly doctors appointments together etc). We never lived together during or after pregnancy.
Year 1 of parenting he was doing him aka whatever he wanted and even took a job in another city (5hours away). Year 2 he started asking for his family back 🙄
Year 3 really started pushing to get his family back.
Eventually at about 3.5 years in I said it wont happen and have been firm. I was considering it before, but I can’t… its too much there to unpack. We’ve since been to mediation and have a court agreement for custody and visitation.
DESPITE this and him having a girlfriend now, he calls to terrorize me about our past, calling me all sorts of liars and has even gone to say he will be the “boogeyman” for the next 13years. I believe him. I would rather deal with a deadbeat than a man who didn’t get his way.
I even worry I wouldn’t be able to date. That he would harm me or anyone I try to be with. (I’ve been single this entire time, since him).
I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has ever dealt with someone similar and if their behavior ever changed? Or if you have a difficult co-parent how do/did you cope?