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Moved here from the Philippines a couple years ago and honestly I’ve just been busy with work and juggling everything lol. I’m 26M and work in corporate, but I feel like I’m finally settled and stable enough now to start making friends and building a life here.

Any dudes around 20-30 who are into running, the gym, sports, nerdy shit, hiking, or whatever really? You don’t even have to be into the same stuff, I just genuinely want to meet more people and make some actual friends here. Or start a run club or something.

Hmu and maybe we can grab a beer or do something sometime 🤝

Not in New York btw, I’m in AZ.

I’ve been trying to push myself to go out more since I moved here and haven’t really made any friends yet. Thought going to a sports bar to watch the Knicks game could be a good next step, but I’m not gonna lie, it feels kinda weird doing it solo.

Not expecting to magically make friends or anything, just trying to put myself in situations where it’s at least possible.

Also it’s a long weekend and I refuse to just stay at home again lol

Anyone here done this before? How was it?

Been scared of guns for a long time but trying to get out of my comfort zone this year. Anyone know a good beginner-friendly shooting range? Preferably somewhere that offers a quick intro or lesson. Not really trying to commit to multiple sessions yet, just want to try it and see how it feels.

Appreciate any recs 🙏

Moved here almost 2 years ago and realized I barely explored the nightlife scene at all. Usually just work, gym, hiking, games, shows, movies, errands, repeat 😂

Trying to get out more and actually experience life here instead of staying at home all the time. Any good spots for a solo guy in his 20s to just chill, grab a couple drinks, maybe meet people, or just enjoy the vibe?

Honestly doesn’t even have to be a bar. Open to anything fun tbh Just wanna get out of the house/routine and feel alive for a bit lol

I moved here almost 2 years ago and honestly I feel like I wasted the first year and a half just staying comfortable. All I really did was work, play video games, do errands, then go home. Repeat over and over again.

I’m introverted too so that made it even easier to just stay inside and not really build a life here.

Lately though I realized I wasn’t really living. I was just existing and going through routine. So recently I started trying to do more things on my own instead of waiting around for life to happen. Hiking, running, roadtrips, bookstores, coffee shops, random drives, stuff like that. I actually ended up enjoying my own company a lot more than I expected.

But at the same time, it still gets lonely sometimes. Especially because moving to a new country feels weird. You don’t know the culture fully, the social norms, how people interact, what’s normal, what’s not. Sometimes I still feel like an outsider socially even after being here for almost 2 years.

Before when people talked to me I would mostly just nod and say “yeah” or “mmhmm” because I genuinely didn’t know what to say. I’m getting a little better now though. Trying to be more present in conversations instead of overthinking every interaction.

Recently even went on a couple dates and I realized how much I still need to grow socially. I get too in my head sometimes instead of just relaxing and being curious about the other person.

To the people here who migrated and felt lonely at first, how did you build your social life and find your people? Did hobbies, clubs, volunteering, church, sports, etc actually help?

I’m 25M from Southeast Asia and I feel like I’m finally trying to build an actual life here instead of just occupying space.