How do you make asking about RADARs, check-ins etc feel less...awkward?
Seeking advice from you all here as a neutral 3rd party!
My primary partner and I used to do pretty regular, unscripted check-ins/updates during the first couple years of our relationship. We've both had a pretty rough time over the past year (them moreso than me). We've both expressed a desire to pick up the check-ins again, and tentatively plan for them, but then when the day comes, we end up doing something else.
I'm very much a "if it's not 2 yeses, it's a no" type person when it comes to a regular RADAR or check-in (if something's urgent that's different). So I keep thinking, okay, maybe today's not the day, we're tired/dealing with some life stuff/enjoying some quality time. And that's okay, I can be flexible about this because I don't want anyone to feel pressured.
That said, it's getting to the point for me that I'm missing out on something I need. Not for reassurance, but for understanding and connection. I come away from those checkpoints feeling much more connected to my partner. However, it feels incredibly awkward to put my foot down on this when we've both had extremely rough times of it.
How did you make asking less awkward?