u/Y2KRio

A little bit of context. First post here too sorry if it’s not up to standard like everyone else’s is. I had this friend, I’ll give him the name Tony. Me and Tony are the same age. He was exactly like a brother to me. But a big thing is, it was not reciprocated. He was fake.

This all starts two years ago… I meet him in my English class. We talk and get to know each other and 2 months into the school year we are having sleepovers and hangouts. I have no problem, life is good. In December of that year I got together with my girlfriend, we ended up breaking up a month later(we got back together 2 times after this), I told him about her. I told him everything. I made the fatal mistake of letting them talk together. They used corny nicknames like pookie and other cringe stuff. But I let it happen thinking it was friendship, I did it all the time with Tony so maybe it was normal. It wasn’t… she starts to ignore me for him and 2 weeks later I make it clear and she tells me our spark ran out and she stopped loving me and developed a crush for Toby. It hurt unlike a pain I have ever felt. Two weeks later he’s with her… he had told her 3 main things that made her break up with me. 1, I showed her nudes to him, 2 I had a roster, 3 I was actively talking to other girls. Which none of them were true, I didn’t even have her nudes. That whole summer was a wreck, they get together and after two weeks of venting to Toby he gets fed up and says to me “(my name) you need to get over her. Just get better already and stop venting to me. It’s annoying, just get over it already…”. I stop talking to him and on the first day of school next year we exchange our schedules and find we have lunch together. He still is dating her, we find a table by ourselves, he could’ve sat with another friend group but chose to sit with me because I would have not had anyone to sit with. Then a couple days later I change into his math class because of a problem with the level. We have amazing times together, after a month we move to the infamous table in the lunch room. Everyone’s always loud and we make noise. We make infinite memories. Me and Tony walk home all the time, we sleepover all of the time. I hated being home because ever since the year prior I had problems with my mom but that’s for another story, and I had met his family 3 times at this point and his mom loved me and said I was apart of the family. Then comes the end of the year. My ex, now girlfriend… breaks up with him because he treated her like shit. He ignored her for weeks on end because she would make him slightly mad. He ignored her for Rust, he ignored me for Rust. He had 3k hours on the damn game and wouldn’t get off and lost his girl. I was there for him, truely. Then we go on a beach trip. The first day was amazing then the rest were shit. He chaffed his legs on pourpose so he had a reason to stay in the house and play games. I told him I’d buy him aloe so we can keep going out but would refuse even though I bought him a bug bottle. His mom wouldn’t let me walk at night and go on the beach at night without him so I was stuck inside trying to convince him. He was a slob, only when forced to get up he got up. Never kept anything organized and of course smelled like shit. Then because of me pestering him the whole trip about not walking at night. He ignored me for the whole summer, then I go back to my ex. I genuinely wanted to know how she was then she started to develop a crush, 1 month after talking to her again we got together and then she showed me damning evidence. He would celebrate to her when he didn’t have to sleepover when he was the one who made plans. Made fun of me and how I dressed(which wasn’t bad), made fun of my braces and hair and everything that made me, me… one day I confront him and I show him all the evidence. He doesn’t appologize, he told me it’s his ex’s fault and that she’s a bitch, a whore, and a slut. He said she was trying to break us apart. I call him and I drill him on why he did this and he blamed it on his problems in the past talking to friends from school over the summer, then tried to lie and say it was a loyalty test(they dated for 11 months), then tried to tell me they waited a month after we broke up to date her when he was making moves when we were dating! I get so fed up and tell him to get lost and I never want to see him again. He cries and begs me to stay his friend and I feel no remorse as I block him. My girlfriend now, I’ll give her a random name, Juanita. Juanita tells me that he had convinced her that i was a cheater and showed him her nudes. I gave her proof I didn’t and she apologized and I forgave her. Here’s why she believed what he said, at the time I kept getting my phone taken(she thought that was suspicious because I wouldn’t talk to her obviously and then I’d talk to her when my phone was back. I apologized and explained it with evidence that it wasn’t my fault. My mom has had it out for me and she’s seen how bad it gets). She realizes Tony is wrong and apologizes even to this day about how wrong she was. We have been dating 9 months and I love her, we met up 2 times, we met online. Am I in the wrong? I just need closure, I can’t seem to figure it out myself…