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​I recently watched a video breaking down the mechanics of most dating sites(Tinder, Bumble, Okcupid etc.), and it completely ruined how I look at modern dating.The whole thing is literally engineered like an unregulated slot machine. They deliberately use "variable rewards" to keep us addicted. New accounts get a temporary boost to give you a quick hit of validation, and then your visibility drops off a cliff so you’re tempted to buy premium upgrades.​Worse yet, their own SEC filings basically admit that if we actually find love and delete the app, they lose money. Their business model relies on keeping us single and swiping. Add in the predatory weekly pricing, the insane statistical imbalance the top 10% of profiles getting 60% of the attention. Statistics shows that most people using this apps are mostly men compared to women. And the sheer amount of bot/scam profiles the platforms drag their feet on removing, and it’s just a massive scam.For those still using these apps just delete them and just try meeting people through hobbies and actual community again.

​I think nimefika point ya kukubali sipati kazi huku Kenya. Honestly, I’m just making this post kwa sababu nimechoka, nimefika mwisho, na sijui nifanye nini tena.Nime spend sleepless nights nikitafuta job kila mahali...... Kutoka LinkedIn, Indeed, BrighterMonday, hadi hizi platform zote za remote jobs—nimetuma ma applications hadi vidole zinauma lakini wapi? Hakuna kitu.

​Huu mwezi wa May pekee yake, nimebahatika kupata interviews nane....Nilijua tu hapa sasa nimefika, nikaingia zote nikiwa nimejiandaa vizuri sana. Kila nikitoka najiambia "Hii imeenda." Lakini kila matokeo ikirudi, ni ile "Unfortunately..." au wananyamazishwa kabisa unajipata umekuwa ghosted. 8 interviews in a single month bila success yoyote? Hiyo kitu inasumbus akili sana

​Manze, nimechoka....

​ Kama kuna msee yeyote huku nje ako na connection, au anajua mahali kuna vacancy yoyote hata kama ni ile ya mshahara ya KSh 20,000 kwa mwezi mimi niko rada kuichukua .... I just need a foot in the door na kitu ya kuanzia ili nikuwe mbali na hii stress ya job hunting.

​Kama uko na lead yoyote, please DM. Shukran wasee.

So I was having this conversation with my friend, and I asked ​"Msee, kwani wewe ukuwa na pair ngapi za socks?"Mimi nilimshow "Mimi zangu hazipiti saba .... Moja ya kila siku ya wiki, zikioshwa weekend zinarudi kwa mzunguko." Alishindwa vyenye mimi husurvive na socks saba pekee....Hapo ndio mambo ilianza kuwa weird. Bro alianza kusema hawezi vaa socks mara mbili. Ati yeye hununua pair mpya KILA SIKU!

​Nilidhani ananipima, tukaamua kupiga hesabu ya haraka haraka:

Kama pair moja ya socks poa ni around KSh 100 (tuseme ile ya bei ya chini kabisa mtaani au pale huko Kamukunji/Toi).

​Kwa mwezi mmoja (siku 30), huyu msee anaspend KSh 3,000 kwa socks pekee!

​In a year, hiyo ni KSh 36,000 inaenda tu kwa miguu!

Manze, KSh 36,000 kwa mwaka inanunua sabuni ngapi? Au kwani huyu msee hajui story na kufua? Mimi niliona ni upuzi wa kiwango cha juu sana....Kwani nani mwingine hapa ananunua socks kila siku???