u/Zacheif

Basically before you became a domme and new anything about it. How would you have reacted? Would you have been:

Weirded out? Thought it was a scam? Curious?

Basically would they think that you being a domme matches your personality or would they view it as being completely left field based on who you are?

For some reason on my fyp, I keep seeing women who are autistic (high functioning) talk about how they've been misunderstood their whole life and how people always accused them of being condescending or thinking their better than everyone else. funny thing is, I go to their profile and watch a couple of their videos and can immediately see why 😂 I don't think it's intentional but they usually almost always do come off this way. Curious how many of you were the same way and just said fuck it and embraced it and become a domme.

I feel like there's a lot of talk about subs wanting to give up control but I'm wondering if this is something dommes actually like/would want? I don't mean in like a shot 10 min session, but I mean in an actual long term dynamic.

Seems like it would be a lot of responsibility. and then there's the question of if the domme is in control of herself and the sub when would she be able to give up control for her own well being?

For the subs with partners i'm curious what you would do in such a situation? I'm not one to judge anyone's relationships but from my perspective having a domme while in a relationship does cross the border to cheating if your partner is unaware, so i'm wondering if you would just take that to it's natural conclusion when presented with such an opportunity?

Again no judgement, just curious.

I don't necessarily mean in a "what turns you on" context. Also assuming this person is already your sub/has sent to before, so not a random.

What are things that a sub says or does, that brightens your day, or genuinely makes you happy or turned on, that doesn't involve sending?

In the real world, if you give someone a compliment, they react like this:

• Person A: "Wow, you're so smart!"
• Person B: "I'm not that smart, I just study a lot."

Or

• Person A: "Wow, you're a great cook!"
• Person B: "I'm not that good, there are tons of people better than me."

And when someone insults us, we tend to react like this:

• Person A: "Wow, you're so ugly."
• Person B: "I look better than you bitch"

OR

• Person A: "Wow, you're so dumb"
• Person B: "I guarantee I had a higher GPA than you..."

In the real world when someone compliments us, we reject it. When someone insults us, we reject it.

Now compare this to the femdom:

• Sub: "Goddess you're so beautiful!"
• Domme: "I know bitch, I'm probably the best looking women you've ever spoken too!"

Or

• Domme: "Omg you're such a loser!"
• sub: "Yes Goddess, I'm a huge loser!"

This is the only place where when someone compliments us, we accept it, and when someone insults us, we accept it.

I'm curious how many of you started with a guy offering to send you money from your vanilla socials vs you finding out about findom independently.