r/paypigsupportgroup

I have met a dom everything was perfect. However her birthday after one week and i want to give her a gift and i need an idea

Our goal is to inflate our domme’s confidence and dommespace. Thinking about budgets can hurt that fantasy and I’m sure dommes feel the same. At the same time we live in the real world. When I started findom I would tell my partner how much I could spare from each paycheck, and we would “pretend” to forget while adhering to it.

Since coming back to the scene it feels like having a budget is frowned upon. When am I allowed to say “I have $500 tonight” or “I have $500 this week” before playing? Do dommes need to see and trust that we can supply dommespace first?

Note: this doesn’t come from anyone in particular. I’ve only had positive experiences.

Basically before you became a domme and new anything about it. How would you have reacted? Would you have been:

Weirded out? Thought it was a scam? Curious?

It's almost like I want them to engage with their shadow side and the contrast with their general self makes it feel electrifying. Them being generally gentle and soft also works almost as a safety net because I dont have to worry that they genuinely want to ruin me (if I judged the domme correctly ofc, since there is always room for misjudgements) and this is all just mental and emotional play for us. Ofc this only works for me when there is mutual respect and I am also not into loud aggression. But playful brattiness at times? Yes please!

I think thats also why in real life, I have always been into cute and caring women with moody, slightly bratty streaks who want to get their will in a relationship. A cutie who asks me to do her a favor (when I know she respects me ofc), or someone who tells me to do something that will benefit me and me then saying "yes, I will do so, for u" to give two examples. The duality makes them super exciting.

I've been serving my previous dom for more than two years, and we decided that we should end things because we don't align with each other anymore. She doesn't want to meet my expectations, and vice versa, but I really miss her. Do you think I should move on or try to see if I can fix things?

Ok so I basically never been into $end $ex. However lately, in the heat of the moment I found myself drawn to tribute and tips to some creators. At first I found it correct and fun, then I started finding it arousing. Very arousing.

However, again I'm not into this alone, like main source of "arousal" that until few hours ago that I found this findomme that looks godly to my eyes, that published cashmeet encounters and a lot of earning screenshots. I dug deeper and looked into profile of super devoted pigs, one of which sent over 50k$. It was a while since I got this tunerd on.

And the problem is that a girl like her, she could literally destroy me with just her feet, the surge the need to get completly broken down by her was unbearable.

So my question, do you huys get's so turned on by other big sender too or it's just me?

Recently my domme quit the scene as she has every right to do. She also kind of came back and kept me as a friend but in doing so I kinda felt weird about chasing after another domme while also talking to her even as a friend. She recently again deleted another account which is fine but it’s just got me so mentally drained how things went down between us. I don’t know if it’s the fatigue of that specific relationship or what but I’m just not sure where to go from here. I know there are so many amazing dommes out there but also I don’t really want to experience that again I guess of being abandoned after getting so close with someone any advice?

Basically would they think that you being a domme matches your personality or would they view it as being completely left field based on who you are?

ok so this happened pretty recently and i still randomly think about this guy because ive had weird men before but he was genuinely on another level.

it started pretty normal. tributes, buying me random stuff, asking for rules, sending me his balance in the morning, asking permission before spending money etc. nothing that crazy.

but he got attached FAST. like after maybe 3 or 4 days he already wanted basically everything controlled. what he eats, what he buys, when he can go out, when he has to check in, even stupid things like whether he was allowed to order coffee.

then the cash & goes started and he was weirdly obsessed with them. sometimes id literally give him barely any notice and he'd still somehow make it work. one time i told him to withdraw 100€ and i genuinely thought he'd tell me he couldnt because it was late. nope. picture from the atm like 20 mins later.

the video calls were probably where i realised how strange he actually was though. he would just sit there waiting for instructions for ages. sometimes i purposely wouldnt say anything for a few minutes just to see what he'd do and he would literally stay there waiting.

he also had this collar he always wanted me to make him wear and then obviously eventually that turned into him asking about the leash outside. he was WAY too excited about the possibility of people seeing him too which was honestly more embarrassing for me than him lmao.

but then it got way more personal than i expected.

this man literally started giving me access to basically his whole life. socials, private accounts, his address, personal information, everything. at one point he was even offering me access to payment stuff and telling me he wanted me to buy whatever i wanted within the limits we agreed on.

and HE was the one constantly trying to make it more extreme.

he was obsessed with this whole consensual blackmail fantasy too. like he wanted me to know embarrassing things about him, wanted me to have information he considered “dangerous”, and kept saying the idea of me having that much leverage over him was the hottest part.

i was actually the one having to remind him like dude im not ruining your real life over a kink calm down.

which is such a bizarre sentence to have to say to a grown man.

after that his requests got progressively more insane. like every few days he'd somehow find something more degrading than the last thing. he was into some really nasty toilet/bodily fluid stuff too and kept trying to convince me to go further with it. some of the things he asked me to do to him genuinely made me put my phone down and stare at the wall for a second because WHAT.

and the weirdest thing was if i refused something he liked it even more. i remember telling him absolutely not to one of his ideas and instead of being disappointed he got even more submissive afterwards. i swear some of these men enjoy being denied more than actually getting what they ask for.

he was also insanely strict with himself. i barely even needed to check if he followed rules because this man would literally expose himself.

one morning i wake up and the first message is basically him confessing that he bought breakfast without permission.

i didnt ask.

i didnt know.

he just SNITCHED ON HIMSELF 💀

and he had an actual notes page with all my rules in it. apparently he'd read through them before messaging me so he didnt accidentally annoy me. which is probably the most dedicated and concerning thing anyone has ever told me at the same time.

towards the end it basically felt like he wanted his entire day to revolve around whatever mood i was in. random cash & goes, calls, stupid tasks, sending money because i was bored, asking permission for everything, wanting to be embarrassed in public, handing over more and more personal control because apparently that was his thing.

eventually i ended it because it was getting REALLY intense and honestly started feeling like a part time job. like i enjoy having a paypig but i dont want to be responsible for a grown mans entire existence from the second he wakes up until he goes to sleep.

but now every normal paypig seems almost boring in comparison lol.

please tell me some of you have had one like this because theres no way this man was a unique species haha idk if I should laugh of feel weird what do you think?

Has anyone else found new subs for their Dom? I’m honestly starting to think that’s part of this fetish, and that it’s something I enjoy. I hadn’t really ever done it before, but middle manning or even just inviting others to talk to and send to my dom is so thrilling?? Has anyone else done this?

It's so complex psychologically (for many ppl) that it's hard to express in words unless u put in a lot of effort or are just generally good at articulating complex psychological phenomena. Honestly, my adhd brain is too lazy rn to think this through, but I bet a lot of ppl can intuitively or even explicitly pick up on what I am saying

To my Mommy/Goddess

You are the smartest and most powerful Goddess. The way your mind works, the quiet strength you carry, the way you see everything so clearly, it still leaves me in awe. Your so powerful it makes me even weaker for you

I love sending you money and ideas on what I should buy her next, planning my next pay day spend and completing tasks set by her to make mommy happy.

Every single day I want to earn your trust.
Every single day I want to prove that my devotion is real again and strong
Consistency that show you I am serious about belonging to you again.
I’m ready to show up as the puppy you deserve, focused only on making you proud and earning my place at your feet.

Mommy is kind, caring but stern and expects what is rightfully hers and this makes doing my job as a pet so fun and rewarding .

I want you to know that my loyalty to you never faded, not even for a second. You are still the only one I want to serve, the only one who owns me and my submission.

I will be my best for you always, from mommyspet

Hey everybody! I am a new sub to findom and recently got a domme online. She wants me to do certain tasks every week and this week she wants a 3 minute video of me worshipping her. The only problem… I have no idea how to do that. I’ve only seen her in pictures/videos and I’m really new to this whole thing. Does anyone have any ideas on how to worship a domme through a screen? (Also I do know she’s actually legit and I’m not just being scammed in case you were wondering). Any advice would be appreciated!

This is just a vent really.

I'm a sub and I have an atypical dynamic for the findom space. I'd say this is almost more of a relationship than a findom vent but the dynamic has its roots in being transactional so it doesn't really fit elsewhere. It started out as being responsible for a budget with some spoiling on the side. We do some other kink related stuff on top of that and are rapidly coming up on 2 1/2 years now since we met.

This has been completely online and while we've come close to crossing paths it's never happened. Time and budget for both of us have just not permitted it (travel is expensive yo). Through it all we text one another daily to say hello at a minimum. That's where this doesn't fit into general relationship frustration because some days it's just the small daily send and a hello.

Last summer I was the odd one where I had other stuff and really pulled back. This summer it's her. In both of our cases it's other big life stuff getting in the way.

The struggle and the vent I need here is that now I feel loyal to her but we haven't really done anything kinky for well over a month. I am feeling really neglected. I understand that she has big important stuff (intentional vagueness on my part) though and why it's happening. I know her stresses and as much as I feel neglected I don't wanna ask her to play or be dominant either. I don't want to ask because I know she cares so deeply and she would try. I did ask for one thing a few days ago to try and throw a spark into things. She made her best attempt and was trying just as I was to see a spark there. I could tell it was a stretch and I think she could too because I did make an honest mistake that would've been grounds for funishment which she glossed right over.

I have in the past and reiterated today that I'm open to helping her where I'm able. We're at a place where we both know the gesture is genuine but given distance and limited means there's little to nothing I can do. An added difficulty is that as much as we interact the fact remains we're secrets. Her extended family doesn't know about her Pup. Mine doesn't know about my collar for... obvious reasons. The last difficulty here is that while we've both been single we're not dating either. As much as we enjoy the dynamic and care for one another as people deep romantic interest expressed has been minimal. Uprooting myself to be closer to her for all of these reasons doesn't make sense from either side. That of course assumes that being located closer to her would provide any benefit which it possibly might not.

Walking away from her would be another thing to add her pile of shit. I can't see myself walking away from her knowing what that might do to her. I'm starting to feel like I'm at a bit of an impasse though where there's only loyalty and the existing emotional investment keeping me around. Going on almost two months without any interest expressed in a power dynamic is a hefty chunk of time out of 27 total when the original basis was power exchange.

A reality I have to face here is that she has no control over exactly how long some of her current obligations will last. It could be weeks or it could be years to come.

• I can't walk away because it'd hurt her more
• I can't meaningfully help or unburden her in any way
• I can't vent about it to anyone IRL because "special internet friend" is gonna need explanation
• I am really struggling with the denial involved here which isn't the fun kind either

I have heard of things like the anklet for hot wives and the upside down pinapple for swingers, but what about paypigs? I would love to wear something subtle to let findoms around me know what I am.

I think it would be really amazing to have a findom see the symbol and then approach me with her cash tag or suggest going to a nearby atm.

I’m looking for some genuine advice from anyone who has dealt with a findom addiction and managed to stop or get it under control.

I’ve realized that it has become unhealthy for me. What might have started as something exciting/fun has turned into a cycle where I spend money, regret it afterward, tell myself I’m done, and then eventually get the urge to do it again. The financial side obviously worries me, but I’m also concerned about how compulsive the whole thing has become.

For anyone who has successfully quit or significantly reduced their involvement with findom:

What actually helped you stop?

Did you delete/block accounts and payment methods completely?

How did you deal with urges when they came back?

Did you replace findom with something else?

Did therapy or addiction counselling help?

How long did it take before you felt like you were genuinely in control again?

I’m especially interested in hearing from people who understand that simply saying “just stop sending money” isn’t particularly helpful when the behaviour has become compulsive.

Last night I had an extraordinary conversation with a lovely gent about our kinks and where they came from. He could nail down exactly where nearly every one of his kinks originated, except his findom kink. That one was elusive for him.

I know the precise moment the findom switch flipped for me. That moment burns brightly.

Where did it start for you? Can you pinpoint it? 🖤

WTF is wrong with you people?

I just bought a set of nails from Home Depot it only cost me $30. Isn’t that more reasonable?

I sent it, but is that reasonable? Girl stuff is expensive

Edit: it was a pedicure

I could be competely wrong here but I can see it being the case in two different ways:

1. Findommes out of spite using their beauty and feminity to prove themselves through receiving sends and gifts that they are not below men. I can also see that submanifest by them liking the feel dominant over the sub they are dominating (that doesnt necessarily mean that they dislike the respective sub, but that its at least a form of emotional release during play time).

2. Findommes liking the fact that a respectful sub is prioritizing her emotional wellbeing, which could be in contrast to them in the past she had many men talkding down or dismissing her. It then makes them feel like they are actually not inferior to men and that they can connect with a guy who is actually respectful which can be very refreshing.

Edit: by common, i dont mean that the majority operates that way, but that potentially a good chunk (maybe lets say 20%) do.