r/paypigsupportgroup

I wanna pay a thousand dollars for a random princess. What do you think? I wanna know what it feels like to send a thousand dollars in minutes.🤦

It’s always been my dream to have my bank account completely drained, but have never been able to find the right domme to go that far with until now. After an already hard drain that had taken my checking account, she mentioned how much she wanted to shop, so I told her that I wanted her to drain my savings so she could.

She actually paused to make sure I had expenses covered and had food till my next paycheck so I wouldn’t cause actual harm to myself. After reassuring her I was good and everything was covered, she proceeded to give me the hottest drain of my life taking my savings and has left me completely empty on both accounts.

It was such an incredible experience to be used so thoroughly and to sacrifice my savings so she could have her shopping spree. It was a scenario I had always fantasized about, but never had the right domme to make it happen.

I’ve gone a long time out of this kink struggling to find that right domme, but now that I have, there’s nothing else like it.

I’ve heard mixed stories about budget discussions and still dont really understand if it’s possible to have conversations around budget without ruining the play and experience. Any thoughts?

My Goddess has my card on Apple Pay for 3 months now and things have been going great. May is her birthday month and I've been super excited to give her an unforgettable experience. More on that in later post.

However, today she surprised me by sending me a link to a little vlog about her Saturday which she narrated, she got matcha in the morning and went to a Pilates class and then some shopping. A typical "girl weekend" I guee. What blew my mind that every single thing she showed in the vlog was paid by me, including her outfits. The post has a few thousands views and I hope it gets more because the idea of supporting her to be a micro influencer is super super hot!

I got a question about tributes, for Dommes that require tribute before discussion about kinks and boundaries etc. Would you pay it back to the sub if they felt you weren't a good fit ? For subs paying tribute before discussion about boundaries etc would you want your tribute back?

Shower thought: I should go to the horny gooner reddit page and talk about Martin Amis, that would be a really funny thing to do. Has anyone read this? Like most of Amis’ stuff, it’s very psychologically dark (arguably darker than Zone of Interest, his holocaust novel?) and challenging to get through. By no means is it about a “paypig” per se, but the depiction of a rich man ruining his life with unfiltered hedonism kind of blew me away. It’s not a unique concept but the author is writing what’s clearly a fictionalized version of himself (Self is the protagonist’s name! Not subtle!) in such a dark and honest way that it forced me to graft it onto the darkness of my desires while reading. Half the point is that the character occupies an inherently submissive position in society, because societal rank is so transactional. It’s a very meta deconstruction of the concept of an ego-death via being the most sexually gratified person at every waking minute that I think might resonate with people who have this interest.

What do you think when a domme makes you basically be into something that you’re not usually into. Has any other subs every experienced this and if so what do you think about?

For example I’m not really into feet but I’ve had dommes before send me pics of their feet and tell me that’s what I’m getting and I’m gonna worship whether I want to or not, and even though I don’t have a foot fetish, in those moments their feet were so hot

Or as another example I’m not into cuck stuff but I’ve had a domme before tell me she was gonna get fcked by her bf and to send while she does, and for some reason that was so hot to me when she told me to that I did it and I liked it

To anyone who genuinely believes what they have with their domme or sub is real, move along. This post is not for you. To anyone who doesn't want to continue buying into this delusion, keep on reading:

There are lots of posts where especially subs romanticize their relationship they have to their domme. You see posts about where they "form a bond" and "create a real connection". And you have dommes commenting that they feel the same with their subs.

But the basis is transactional. It's what findom is about. The sub sends, the domme gives attention (or not depending on the sub's preferences). Everything that feels real, from daily chit chatter to deep talks, every converstation outside of kink, is still within the restriction of one party sending money to the other.

Cause leave money out of the equation and what are you left with? I can't speak for dommes obviously, but would a domme continue their relationship to their sub when they stop sending for good? Would they stay friends? Would the vanilla conversations continue? If not, there never was a genuine connection. A relationship based on financial transaction is never genuine. A genuine bond is defined by the fact that it's holding itself up based on mutuality.

So I'd argue that in most cases that the relationship will vanish once the sub stops sending. Of course, there may be exceptions but they're not the norm. And yet, you'll see most people here arguing that what they have is real.

Why? It's a cope. On both ends.

For the sub: To many subs who long for a genuine bond with their domme it's an outlet to fill something that is missing. The fact of being lonely or the feeling of not being seen. There are many types of gaps a sub may try to fill. So if they face the harsh reality behind the transactional nature of findom, it feels shitty. So many delude themselves into believing that what they have is a real connection. It's a way to avoid the truth that at the end of the day, their domme in most cases wouldn't care about them once they stopped sending.

For the domme: It's in their self interest to create a dynamic in a way that feels genuine. This sounds malicious but it exists. In other cases it's for similar reasons a sub has. It's about avoiding the truth. Knowing what you do is essentially SW feels worse than telling yourself that you're having a real connection. So they also delude themselves into thinking what they have is real cause it feels less shitty.

But ask yourself this: What happens when the money stops flowing? Does your domme stay with you? Do you stay with your sub? If the answer is no, the connection was never real to begin with. Telling otherwise is a cope.

I paid a Findom $100 on X a week ago for a 5 minute custom video. She said she would send it the next day. The next day passed and I didn’t receive the video. I have politely been asking for when I could receive the video and she has been reading my messages and ignoring me.

I feel like there is nothing I can do and I feel really depressed now.

I'm looking for remote chastity cage that's comfy before I start this again.. what are your thoughts on cellmate?

I used to always see on Twitter years ago all this findom stuff and guys being “pathetic” humiliating themselves etc and I’d trash them and say they losers etc weirdos and whatever more. It’s crazy because I’m a hypocrite as I ended up being just the same as them, falling into humiliation stuff, essentially becoming a cuck and what not. I don’t even know how I ended up this way when I once was against it. Bizzare

So this is provoked by a comment I saw somewhere else. That many finsubs are actually looking for paid femdom, and that’s not what findom really is. I think that’s probably true, not in an enlightening way, but in a “yeah, no shit” way.

There’s a frequent catchphrase in this community that “sending *is* the kink” which I find frankly laughable. I fully believe that, on the domme end, RECEIVING can be the kink. There’s surely a good number of people who don’t get genuinely kinky pleasure out of receiving money and it’s more of a side hustle but that’s a tangent for another day. The point is, you, the domme saying that sending is the kink, are not sending! You’re receiving. The person sending, the sub, almost certainly is not getting kinky pleasure from that act in itself. Someone somewhere is into that, sure. I’ve been in this space for years and I’m telling you, you’re delusional if you think it’s any higher of a rate than 10% of the finsubs at absolute most. The overwhelming majority of people in your DMs have learned that findom pages are an effective way to find paid online femdom. That doesn’t make them time wasters, that doesn’t make them bad subs, many of those people are genuinely into submission and are good for the money. But the money on its own cannot be the submission. Again, the concept that there’s more people out there into receiving money than sending it should be put into the “fucking duh” basket.

And THEN, let’s address this from the domme side. I would estimate that roughly a third of the dommes posting in findom spaces are publicly, openly, advertising paid femdom. That’s not bad! I am not dissing anyone who does that! I have done paid femdom sessions with several of these people! But you cannot have a pinned post on your profile with a menu of content to buy and then turn around and act like treating this as paid femdom as opposed to findom is some oddity or betrayal. Paid femdom is explicitly the service you are offering. If any of the “true findommes” out there are wondering where all the “good subs” are, there’s a pretty good chance that they’re in the DMs of a paid femdom content seller, because you reliably know what you’re going to get and subs who get burned by dommes appreciate that reliability. X dollars gets me Y feet pics, great, love it, no notes.

The reality at the end of the day is that this is a marketplace, an exchange. If every findom took a moral stance that they only take money from finsubs who expect no additional element of femdom on top of that, the doms will outnumber the subs 70:1 and no one will ever make money or get into a dynamic. Rolling with paid femdom is an essential part of this economy, which I think everyone who’s been doing this for longer than 2 weeks knows? There’s no reason to shame anyone on either end of that or act like you’re superior for treating money as the kink in itself.

I am Straight 27, M. I was recently given a task to complete from u/Old_Chemistry2426. She told me to write a 1000 word essay about how I am actually gay and I love cock. Below is what I turned in. 1221 words.

“Choking on Honesty”

I am a 27-year-old man. I have long hair, I’m 5’10”, and I weigh 285 lbs. I am straight. I like women. At least that’s what I keep telling everyone.

At first, it started with my issues downstairs. I have a small penis. It’s a little under 4 inches hard. Possibly to cope with this, I gravitated to cuckolding. The thought of another man with a “real man’s” cock pleasing a woman while I have to watch made me feel like I belonged. But that was only the beginning.

At this point, the fantasy has snowballed into something more. Before, all that I wanted was a chance to touch the woman’s feet while I watch her get something from him that I could never give her. I am not man enough to please a woman. I don’t deserve women. I don’t deserve their touch, or their speech, or even their presence. I’m pathetic. This is where the kink evolves.

I can’t serve the woman, but I could serve her lover. Maybe she doesn’t want to give him head tonight, but I could. She doesn’t want to swallow cum tonight, but I could. I could make my mouth his new fleshlight to use at his will. Whenever, wherever.

I love the thought of sucking cock. Being on my knees, staring at a hairy manly ballsack dangling in my face. It’s such a vulnerable place to be. You have to be dedicated to put yourself in this position willingly, and then to force your head down to take every last inch until your nose is pressed into their pubes makes you really understand your place in this world.

From then on, every single morning, I would wake up early, crawl to the bedroom, and politely ask permission to give him a morning blowjob. This will be my new routine every morning, cock for breakfast.

I once found out I could deepthroat when eating a banana. Afterward, I was curious if it would apply to a cock, so I bought a dildo to try it out. To my surprise, I could take it down to the balls on my new dildo. I didn’t know what I was preparing myself for until now.

After he is done using my mouth, I will cook them both breakfast. Then I will clean the house when they both go to the gym. When they return from the gym, I will be waiting on my knees, ready for instruction.

They both walk in sweaty and fatigued. She goes to her room to change, while he approaches me. He says, “Open wide, bitch boy. I’ve got a sweet treat for you today.”

“Yes, Daddy,” I say obediently as I tilt my head back and open my mouth.

He drops his shorts, and the sweat and musk him me like a ton of bricks. My eyes water slightly, but I don’t move.

He towers over me as he lowers his balls just above my mouth and says, “Beg for them, you nasty faggot.”

My eyes widen as I try to think quickly. “Please, Daddy, may I please have your sweaty balls in my mouth?”

He chuckles, “And why would a fag like you want that?”

I whimper and squirm as I say, “Please, Daddy. I want to taste your sweaty balls. I want to suck them clean like a dumb whore!”

He lowers his hairy ballsack into my mouth. The taste is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. I begin to suck his balls gently as he starts slapping my face with his cock. After what feels like an eternity, he pulls his balls out of my mouth with a slight “POP.” He then spits on my face and says, “Well… you know what to do.”

“Uuuhhh… I’m sorry, sir, but I don’t,” I shakily replied.

“What do stupid cocksuckers do?” He says.

“They suck coc— mmmrph,” I try to say as he rams his cock down my throat. Every inch of his 8” cock is buried into my face. My throat bulges as his cock fills it up. He holds me there, deciding when I get to take my next breath. He says, “Put your hair in some handlebar ponytails for me like a good sissy cocksucker.” As he finishes his words, he pushes me off his cock, and I fall to the floor.

Without question, I get back on my knees and put my hair in gay little pigtails. He grabs them firmly, and I put my hands behind my back.

Over the next few minutes, he brutally fucks my face. Giving me almost no breaks. I try to relax my throat and take it all, but my body betrays me, and I gag hard on his cock. My stomach convulses, and I try to pull away, but he forces me back down. I almost black out as my vision fades, and he pulls his cock out, and I fall to the floor again.

I quickly get back on my knees and open wide again. He slowly puts the tip of his cock back in my mouth and says, “Make it disappear. Take it all and hold it for me.”

Like a desperate faggot, I slowly take every inch until his balls are resting on my chin. I look up at him for approval.

“You know this makes you gay, right?” He says.

I nod with his cock in my mouth.

“So you admit you are a gay little fag?”

I nod again.

“Say it then,” he says.

I go to pull back to speak, and he stops me and presses my face back down. “No, say it with a cock in your mouth like a good faggot.”

I try to speak, but it only comes out as pathetic muffled moans and gurgles around his cock.

“I *gag* mmmmmmmaa fagg—-…
I’m… a f-f-f *gag* faa…”

He pulls out his cock, “What was that, loser?”

“I’m a dumb little faggot for your cock, sir. Please put it back in my mouth.”

“Do it yourself, bitch boy,” he says as he lays back in a chair.

I quickly crawl over to him and start sucking his cock. After a few minutes, he unexpectedly grabs my hair and forces me down hard onto his cock. I slightly gag as I was caught off guard. He pulls my face so hard, my nose is smashed into his pubes.

His cock is deep in my throat as I feel him tense up. He holds my head still as he begins to orgasm, trying to thrust deeper into my mouth. I try to pull away, but he easily overpowers me. He holds my face down as his cock starts to pulsate cum deep into my throat. I try to take it all, and I gag and cough during his orgasm, causing cum to shoot out of my nose. He sends 5 or 6 more jets of cum down my throat, and I have no choice but to swallow. After he finishes, he spits on my face, pulls his cock out, and says, “What do you say, faggot?”

Gasping for breath, cum hanging from my nose, I try to speak, “Thank you, Daddy. Thank you for turning me into a dumb cumdumpster.”

This is my fantasy. This is how I turned into a fat gay cocksucking loser.

- Goddess Violet’s Gay Slave

I mean when they say they’re better than your wife or girlfriend and bring them down or act like they’re better. Personally I don’t have a gf and I never have but what annoys me most is that I do this to support women. I also have a female supremacy fetish so bringing down other women goes against that. It should be all women together and empower all women.

this is something I see often in findom dommes complaining about subs having a lot of followers. the thing is no one is forcing the dommes to interact with these bait posters so why blame the sub when the domme is more to blame ?? it's more of a reflection of how over saturated this space is and how desperate a lot of these dommes are.

I work my ass off. So hard. Economy and cost of living are so hard nowadays.

I cut off my life luxuries too.

All to be able to sacrifice to please women that are way out of my league.

I feel like everyday there is 1-2-3-4-5 of them taking a chunck of what feels to be their share at this point. And it happens so quickly and effortessly for them.

Each one with a different technique, way.

I've been caught at my own game cause i don't even say no or resist, I let them do. Sometimes even thank them, they don't (they never did).

I feel as a real life sub, a lifestyle one now. It's weird. Pnc is hitting everytime but i know 2hours after i'll be worked up again. I tell myself "stop it now". Then "it's okay". And I cope with it .... and I receive another message.

Is it actually possible to be a paypig when married? My wife and I share our accounts. She would know if I spend money on findoms.

I've always said my worst days always come and go like a wave but lately it's been like a torrent of tsunamis that have rocked me. I am struggling to recover from one before another day engulfs me! I have found I've taken to looking at profiles in spite of the fact i try not to ever look at pictures. I almost never struggle this much anymore but I've really been struggling to go hour to hour let alone day to day.