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I texted my MIL that I was upset with her and wouldn’t be taking my baby over to her house on the weekend because she’s broken my no sick rule around the baby twice. She ghosted me. She didn’t respond, she also hasn’t asked to see the baby when before I texted her she was asking every Sunday. Has anyone ever dealt with someone like this? It feels toxic and like drama that I’m not used to dealing with because I tend to avoid people like this. I had no idea she was this manipulative but I should have known because none of her own sisters speak to her for years.

Okay so I am a first time mom. I had my bay in February so she is still tiny. I made the mistake of being too lenient with her from the beginning. I let her be at the hospital when really I didn’t want her to be because I didn’t realize how big of a day it was for me being a first time mom. I was induced and I had a 3 day labor. She stayed in the waiting room all 3 days with her husband. I let them in the room 1 time and never again because when they came in they just kept talking to my fiance the whole time like it was time to hang out completely disregarding the fact that I was in active labor having contractions crying and bleeding in the bathroom alone. Then my fiance told my mil I wanted jersey mikes as my first meal after giving birth and she said she wasn’t going to go get it until she got to meet my baby and by the time she was born it was late Jersey mikes was closed and she came empty handed. Luckily I told my sister to please bring me Jersey mikes after 3 days of not eating and she did. The next day my FIL came to the hospital unannounced and walked in on me naked doing skin to skin trying to breastfeed my baby. I was furious. I leave the hospital and end up back in the hospital for post partum preeclampsia and my in laws first response is to drop the baby off to them at their house when there is no reason for that because the hospital allowed me to have my baby with me. Fast forward my daughter is 3 weeks old. My FIL wakes up sick and calls us by evening say he feels better to come over tomorrow. NO. THEN my MIL came to my daughter’s newborn photo shoot on a Saturday and she was coughing everywhere claiming she was just choking on water when she was just sick on Wednesday. Straight to the point, everytime we are over there (they expect us to come over every Sunday) my MIL constantly just grabs my baby from my arms without asking. She has never once ASKED to hold the baby she just takes. One time she tried to hold her while I was making her bottle and I said “no I’m fine thank you though” and she walked up to her mother and whispered about me. Last time we visited I offered for her to hold the baby and she gets up and walks into another room away from me. &&& she “forgot” to tell us her daughter is actively sick. My daughter is 2 months old and this isn’t our first time telling her we do not want her exposed to anything. Finally I’ve had it because this is causing GREAT issues between my fiance and I. I texted his mother because my daughter got sick after she exposed her to her sick daughter last week. “

Happy Mother’s Day!! Sorry we didn’t make it over today with the baby, I’m still a little upset about her being exposed to Kaitlyn being sick last week. Especially since we in the past expressed not wanting her to be exposed to anything. I felt disrespected so hopefully moving forward this doesn’t happen again..I hope you have an amazing dinner tonight!”

She ignored me. Advice please.